Today, many couples, shortly after starting a relationship, decide to live together without officially registering the marriage. This is mainly done due to fear of a difficult divorce and negative past life experiences. To understand what kind of person is next to you, you can only live with him under the same roof. Is it so useful for the future of a loving couple and what "pitfalls" can arise in this situation?
We all want to protect ourselves, avoid pain and disappointment, so we strive to get to know a potential spouse as best we can. This is understandable - many people, especially in the "candy-bouquet" period, try to show themselves from their best side and pretend to be someone they are not at all, and all the ins and outs emerge after the wedding. And then it begins - "where were my eyes!", "This man wore a mask" and so on. Therefore, the option of living in a civil marriage has its advantages.
Positive aspects of living together before marriage
First and foremost, you can evaluate everything in practice: does the potential husband have habits that annoy you, how is budget planning, etc. Living together is a litmus test in future relationships. For example, if you want your husband to help you in some household chores, you should not listen to his beautiful speeches that he is "always and under any circumstances ready." It is enough to see how he behaves in your joint home: is he used to cleanliness, is he willingly taking care of comfort … After the first month of living together, all masks will be automatically dropped and his true nature will appear.
It is also believed that couples who live together before marriage registration will not have stress after the formalization of the relationship - after all, they already had a family, which means that nothing new will appear.
Negative sides of cohabitation
Now let's add a fly in the ointment and consider why civil marriage is bad for couples. Many psychologists note that this type of living is usually offered to their partners by insecure people who are not ready to fully open up to their feelings and trust their beloved. They do not expect a serious relationship that is primarily responsible. It is easier for them to "try" - and in case of the slightest problems, parting, which is almost impossible in an official marriage.
In addition, such cohabitation can last for years: on the one hand, there is a family, and on the other, no one owes anything to anyone. Especially this situation is liked by men who feel great in it, even having a mistress, because they know that their "common-law wife" is powerless and will not do anything. Parting will be easy - there is no need for divorces and procedures for changing the name and status, division of property. And a woman in this situation remains in the most disadvantageous position, giving her partner years of life, love and care.
Summarizing what has been said, I would like to note that sometimes a couple can live together for several months. However, there is no guarantee that this will benefit her.
