The book of the same name by Dale Carnegie was written in the middle of the last century, but it does not lose its relevance today. Anxiety, doubts, problems grow like a snowball if you do not know how to cope with them. Let's figure out what practical advice an excellent psychologist gives for every day.
It is necessary
Introspection skills
Instructions
Step 1
To get out of panic anxiety, Carnegie advises to distract yourself and try to look at the situation from the outside. It is necessary to collect objective information about the current problem and only on its basis to make a decision. This will distract from the excitement and bring the outcome closer.
Step 2
If the problem is really serious, simple advice is worth following. Think over the most terrible consequence that she can entail and … make peace with him. The thought of the inevitable loss of money, spouse, work and even life plunges into shock, but, having accepted the most unfavorable outcome in advance, you can try to fix everything with a cool head.
Step 3
Assess the risks soberly. Two conclusions follow from this rule: you do not need to worry about an unlikely event (irrational fears are treated by a therapist), but you will have to come to terms with the inevitable.
Step 4
No need to gnaw yourself over the past, mistakes, miscalculations, losses and problems that have already happened are not worth worrying about. The same applies to the little things that often spoil quite happy and prosperous lives.
Step 5
So that the excitement does not interfere with one, choosing according to the degree of their importance. And, of course, you should not "drive" yourself: no matter how busy you are, you cannot deny yourself a rest.
