Different situations can lead to negativity and aggression. But in this state, you can slander or do too much. In addition, both the body and the brain are uncomfortable in it. Learn to deal with external stimuli and stay calm.
Instructions
Step 1
Don't expect everything to be perfect. It is better not to hope that the circumstances will be what you need, so that later you will not be disappointed. There may always be some kind of force majeure, unforeseen changes. And people on your way will not always be kind and polite. Sometimes it just needs to be accepted. The more detailed you imagine how others should behave, the more sharply you react to inconsistencies. Only plan what is up to you.
Step 2
Don't hold back your emotions. If you are angry, violated your boundaries, entered your territory, tell about it. But not with shouts and fists. Just describe the situation. First of all, you need it. Well, think about whether it is worth answering a boor in line in the same way or arguing with a colleague who is out of sorts. Do not fall for provocations and do not get personal. You may have been hurt by something, but do not let yourself be drawn into a circle of aggression.
Step 3
Try to justify your opponent. This is a very useful skill for dealing with aggression, and for forgiving offenses, and in general for successful communication. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. If he is angry and hysterical out of the blue, it means that not everything is going smoothly in his life. And most likely, you have nothing to do with it. The ability to separate yourself from the situation comes with practice, but you should succeed. Of course, failures in life, poor health or problems with children do not give a person the right to yell at you, but when you realize that there are no complaints against you, that you just got into this situation not of your own free will, it will be easier for you to get out of it without sediment on the soul. What is important is not what is happening around, but how close to your heart you take it.
