For a woman to find out that her husband is unfaithful to her, it is a heavy shock. It doesn't matter if she herself caught her husband of treason or well-wishers opened her eyes. Resentment, anger, confusion - all this literally overwhelms her. Some women feel so insulted and humiliated that they immediately file for divorce. Others, on the contrary, may fall into prolonged depression, lose all interest in life. How to behave in such a sad situation, how to live after her husband's infidelity?
Instructions
Step 1
You found out that your spouse is unfaithful to you. Your feelings are understandable and natural. However, it is imperative that you calm down and think carefully about everything. Therefore, at first it is possible (and even necessary to relieve nervous tension) to throw out emotions. Then try to pull yourself together.
Step 2
Answer the question to yourself frankly: are you ready to forgive betrayal for the sake of saving your family? Take your time and do not get excited, try to be as honest as possible. Weigh the pros and cons. Resolutely discard arguments like: "It's better at least some husband than none," or "Who else will need me, with children!" But arguments like: "Children need a father, and he loves them so much, cares!", On the contrary, deserve serious attention.
Step 3
If the resentment is so strong that you cannot forgive your spouse, try to formalize the divorce with dignified calm, without mutual reproaches and scandals, as befits civilized people. If you have children, in no case turn them into an instrument of revenge, do not turn against your ex-husband, do not interfere with his meetings with them. It is possible to break this rule only if the ex-spouse leads an asocial lifestyle and badly influences the children.
Step 4
Don't give up on yourself after a divorce. The times when a divorced woman was considered almost inferior, and amicably condemned for the fact that she could not save her family, are long in the past. You should not blame yourself, even if there is your share of fault in what happened. What happened happened. Don't feel sorry for yourself and don't let others feel sorry for you.
Step 5
If you are ready to forgive your husband, talk to him frankly. Do not reproach, do not resort to tears. Just calmly say, “I know everything. Please explain why this happened. And carefully, without interrupting, listen to him. After all, once you were the most beautiful, beloved and desired for your spouse. He chose you from among many women. Try to figure out what was the reason for his betrayal, and do everything to become the most charming for your husband again.
