Divorce is a difficult and unpleasant event that happens in the lives of many modern women. It doesn't matter who initiated it, who is right and who is wrong; you need to be able to get out of the state of depression and depression with minimal losses for you.
Who is to blame and what to do
First of all, stop feeling guilty about what happened. What happened is gone, you need to come to terms with it and continue your life further. Even if there are objective reasons for your guilt in the divorce, remember that there are always deeper prerequisites; those that do not lie on the surface, but are hidden deep from prying eyes. And if so, then your spouse's fault in the divorce is also likely to be.
Try to learn a wise lesson from what happened and do not make similar mistakes in the future. Having made the necessary conclusions, once and for all close the topic of finding someone to blame, do not support such conversations with friends and relatives, and do not scroll these thoughts over and over again in your head.
Move away from your eyes everything that reminds you of your past life with your spouse: joint photos, his things, gifts, etc. Make repairs in the apartment or at least make some minor changes. For example, change the textile component of your interior, while giving preference to bright, cheerful shades. Your living space should acquire new features and colors.
Tips for Newly Divorced Women
Do not become isolated in yourself, do not sit within four walls, remember that life goes on. Meet actively with friends, attend various cultural events, sign up for a pool or fitness, go to a beauty salon, etc. See yourself as a free, interesting woman.
If work is the salvation from dark thoughts for you, leave for a while headlong into it. But here it is important not to get one more problem in addition - overwork and chronic fatigue syndrome; therefore, it will be better if you nevertheless alternate professional activities with good rest and entertainment.
In addition to work and play, your hobby can be a good way to release negative emotions. Do what you have dreamed of for so long, but could not afford for various reasons. It can be anything, for example, learning English or mastering a quilling course, yachting or windsurfing, etc.
Give up the thought of returning everything as it was. Relationships that ended in divorce, in the overwhelming majority of cases, cannot be restored, the lost harmony cannot be returned. Believe that the man destined for you by fate will definitely meet you, but for now, improve: physically, spiritually, emotionally!
