When a person makes decisions in his life, he is often faced with the fact that his opinion does not coincide with the opinion of those around him: his family, relatives, friends or acquaintances. How do you know if your decision is correct? How to protect yourself from excessive influence and control from other people? You need to learn to be true to yourself.
Instructions
Step 1
Know yourself. Of course, you know yourself better than anyone else. And yet, in important matters of life, a person often follows not his own desires and ideas, but fashion, the opinion of relatives or friends. Answer yourself with utmost honesty to important questions: do you live your life, do you do what you love, do you communicate only with people dear to you? Starting to reflect on the important issues in life will lead to ideas and solutions that will help change imperfect sides and give you the opportunity to shape your perspective on the world.
Step 2
Value your opinion no less than the opinion of people dear to you. When you love someone, you try to listen to their position. This is the basis for harmonious relationships. But there is no need to put the opinion of the other person above yours, to allow each time to dictate your terms to him, to obey only his rules. Likewise, do not impose your opinion and point of view on the other person. There are situations that need to be discussed, and a compromise on which is inevitable, but in most cases you yourself can take care of a firm position on this or that issue.
Step 3
Take the time to make a decision or develop your point of view. Even if someone's idea seems to be successful, and the opinion is perfect, do not rush to think and act in the same way. You are an individual unique person, so every decision and every idea should be weighed against your preferences and experience. Give yourself time to figure out if you think so and if you really want it.
Step 4
Respect your choice. Whatever decision you have to make is important for your personality, development and experience. Even if you had to make a mistake, respect your decision, then other people will treat it with dignity.
Step 5
Don't doubt yourself and your decisions. People around you see indecision and fuss in actions, so they react accordingly - they don't trust, fear your opinion, or start giving advice. Weigh all the pros and cons, calmly make your decision and start acting without fuss and excitement. And to the rest, gently make it clear that you will not change either the decision you made or your point of view.
Step 6
Don't worry about criticism as much as possible. Understand a simple rule: you will be criticized in any state of affairs, if you adhere to your own, and not someone else's, opinion. But it’s impossible to please everyone. Criticism is good only when it comes from a person who understands a situation or a case. Then you should listen to constructive suggestions and correct mistakes. But all other comments are best met calmly and not particularly pay attention to them.
Step 7
Be able to set boundaries for criticism and opinions of outsiders. Everything has its limits. Sometimes it is worth stopping excessive curiosity, criticism, or trying to convince you when it goes too far. Be able to insist on your decision and show that further arguments or persuasion are useless.
Step 8
Do not engage in lengthy discussions or fights. Remain calm when other people start to voice their dissatisfaction with your opinion. Arguments and quarrels will not lead to anything good, it is extremely difficult to reach a compromise in this state, and you can easily spoil a relationship for a long time. Explain that it is okay to have different points of view, and you have the same right to do so as the person you are talking to.
