"He's got nerves of iron!" - so with respect, and sometimes with admiration, they talk about a person who remains calm, equanimous in any, even dangerous situation, or stubbornly resists attempts to drag him into a conflict. Of course, not all people can be so brave, cold-blooded or patient.
How to learn to stay calm
The ability to overcome fear, confusion, calmly assess the situation and make the right decision, as well as avoid quarrels, scandals can be a very good service.
Try not to dramatize the situation where it is not necessary. Some people, especially those who are emotional, impressionable, tend to over-dramatize. In the most severe cases, they are able to elevate any trifle to the rank of almost a universal tragedy. This harms both them and those around them, because communicating with such a vulnerable and emotional person is not an easy test.
Master the technique of self-hypnosis, convince yourself that the problem is not at all as serious (especially dangerous) as you think. It is not worth it for you to be nervous yourself and to unnerve others. Try to avoid immediately reacting to bad news or hurtful words. First, take a few deep breaths, mentally count to ten (even better - to twenty). This extremely simple method will help you stay calm, and keep you from getting angry or hurt.
Do not rush to immediately inform others about your problems, share your concerns on blogs, on pages of social networks. Friends and well-wishers, most likely, will only aggravate your condition with their sympathies (often excessive), and casual interlocutors, and just not too smart people, can laugh at you. This clearly will not add peace to you.
How to learn to control emotions
Avoid things that make you nervous and worried. Watch yourself. In what situation, under what circumstances do you most quickly lose your composure, are you able to enter into a conflict? It can be anything: the time of day, the degree of workload with office and household chores, hunger, headache, annoying noise, uncomfortable tight shoes, communication with unpleasant people, etc. Eliminate these factors, or at least try to minimize them. On the contrary, use in every possible way what calms you down, brings you to a peaceful state, be it quiet minor music, reading your favorite books or aromatic bath.
Be in the fresh air more often, try to maintain a measured and orderly daily routine. Even with a heavy workload, it is very important to pay attention to proper rest and sleep. Since the cause of increased nervousness, conflict is often elementary physical and nervous fatigue.
