Stressful situations lie in wait for us at every corner. Conflicts with colleagues, quarrels with loved ones, misunderstandings with superiors. Even phlegmatic people sometimes find it difficult to control themselves, let alone those who are choleric by nature, and are eager to fight because of the slightest injustice.
In order to control the situation in any dispute, you need to remain calm and not succumb to provocations. There are several proven psychological methods to help keep yourself from reckless actions.
Instructions
Step 1
Eastern sages, famous for their measured attitude to life, advise at the time of conflict not to instinctively clench their fists, but, on the contrary, to straighten their fingers. This simple movement helps with the outflow of blood from the head and makes it possible to instantly cool down and assess the situation calmly, as if from the side.
Step 2
If you are deliberately provoked into a conflict, do not give in. To begin with, do not look your interlocutor in the eyes, break eye contact with him through which he could manipulate you on a subconscious level. Do not raise your voice under any circumstances: on the contrary, if someone is yelling at you, answer deliberately quietly, but clearly. This confuses the enemy, makes them shut up to listen to what you are talking about.
Step 3
On occasions when you go to a meeting or event where it will be difficult to stay calm (this could be a party with your ex, or a corporate party with competitors), worry about your mood beforehand. In critical cases, you can drink a sedative, just do not overdo it so as not to feel drowsy. But the best thing is to just remind yourself of the basic rules of equanimity: even breathing, a smile on your face.
