They teach to tell the truth from childhood, explaining that deceiving another person is bad, it will only bring trouble and suffering. In addition, a lie is disrespectful towards the interlocutor and it is revealed quickly. There will be no more trust in such a person. But there are other lies - for the good.
Are there really good lies? How can you justify a lie spoken to your face? Proponents of honesty and openness definitely state that nothing. Lying is a great sin on the soul and a burden on the conscience. A person who dared to lie must then constantly remember his lie, seek confirmation of it, and therefore lie again and again. It will be very difficult to get out of the vicious circle and it would be better to immediately repent, tell the whole truth, clear your conscience.
When lies are salvation
But life cannot be driven into the framework of only good or bad, it is multifaceted and represented by many shades. Therefore, those who think in extremes and follow too strict principles, in the end, find themselves in a real dilemma. Lies are related to similar concepts. How can you say at the patient's bedside that he has several months left to live if the hope of recovery is the only thing that has so far helped him cope with the disease? And how to tell a small child that his mother is not his own? Or confess to elderly parents that their son is not leading the honest life he is talking about?
Sometimes a lie is a remedy for the person who is being lied to. After all, the truth is not needed in every case. Sometimes truth is the only thing that can harm and even kill a person. In this case, it is wiser, more merciful to resort to lies, especially if there is a hope that the truth will never be learned, and a lie can save someone's life.
What to choose - a lie or a truth?
Truth should be preferable for all types of relationships: friendship, family, family ties, business relationships. In life, it is the truth that saves people in most situations, it allows you to create trusting relationships, be open and honest, live in peace with yourself and with other people. But the saving power of lies also cannot be swept aside for some situations. You cannot destroy families or friendships with one carelessly spoken word just because the word is true. Leaving events in the past, forgetting grievances, keeping silent about some troubles is also a part of human life that allows people to stay together for a long time.
A person himself must evaluate each situation and decide how best, kinder and more merciful to act in each specific case: tell the truth or hide it. After all, it is important not only to always be absolutely truthful and honest, but also to be, above all, a kind and wise person, not to harm another, but to do everything for his good.
