Some girls face a problem when the guy they like stubbornly keeps silent and is clearly not in the mood to start the conversation first, although he clearly sympathizes. What can you do to start a conversation first, without frightening off and not appearing intrusive?
Instructions
Step 1
Ask the young man questions about a topic that interests him. It could be anything. Does he love computers or football? Perfectly! Ask him to tell you which laptop is better - you are just choosing a new one for yourself. Or ask to explain to you, finally, what is this offside position and why is it needed? If a man knows the subject (and you need to conduct a little exploration in order to ask questions that will not put him in a puddle, but, on the contrary, will help to show off his knowledge), then he will be happy to explain everything to you. Men are terribly fond of explaining to women what they do not understand. Take advantage of this feature.
Step 2
Questions are generally a good way to communicate with men. Just remember to be specific. Abstract themes and hints of men are annoying. Ask him if he has seen the latest movie in theaters or tried playing a new game. Discuss something specific with him, listen to his opinion, share yours. In the conversation, gradually find a new topic for conversation, well, and then, as they say, a matter of technology.
Step 3
This move works great. Tell him something like, “I need your advice as a man. You are a smart and modern guy, I think your opinion can be very correct. You see, my friend got into such a situation …”Throwing this hook, you can retell him at least the story of Anna Karenina (transferring the action to our days and changing the names), even Penelope or Elena the Beautiful. "What advice would you give her in this situation?" The man will be flattered that he was chosen as an expert and that he was trusted, and will gladly share his opinion. Your task is to get him to talk, at the same time getting to know his views on life and relationships.
Step 4
Starting a conversation couldn't be easier if you are both students. There is always a topic that is important for classmates - credits, teacher requirements, notes, as well as parties and mutual acquaintances. Try to be natural and cheerful, do not push or chat all the time yourself (men do not like female chatter), give him the opportunity to talk. And listen carefully, listen carefully. Nothing helps to open up like the fact that they listen to you without interrupting.
