Any close relationship is impossible without trust and understanding. When a friend betrays you, you are unlikely to ever be able to forget about her act, but if she repents and asks her to forgive, then maybe it is worth trying to keep the relationship? After all, not always one bad deed crosses out dozens of good ones. Forgiving is difficult, but if you don't learn to forgive, you can lose too much.
Instructions
Step 1
Assess your feelings. If you want your friend to stay in your life, you will have to step over her deception or betrayal. If you are not ready for this, if you do not want to see her, not only now, but also never again, then you should not torture both of you. Tell her honestly and end the relationship. If you are offended, disappointed, angry, but have no idea how you will live without her, then you need to forgive, first of all, for your own sake. You don't want to be unhappy with the traumatic act over and over again?
Step 2
Be prepared for the fact that forgiveness is a long-term process. A decision made and an intention does not mean an instant result. It takes time to heal a cut or bruise, just as it takes weeks, months, and sometimes years for a wound to heal.
Step 3
Recognize that everyone has the right to make mistakes. Perhaps you have at least once in your life been close to deceiving someone's trust? Have you ever let anyone down? If you can be wrong, then your loved one doesn't have to be perfect either. Have you managed to resist all temptations? This is good, but unfortunately most people are far from perfect. They have to work on themselves. Show patience and understanding.
Step 4
Talk to your friend frankly. Tell her what you are feeling. Let her know the pain and frustration you are experiencing. But do not shout, do not blame, talk only about yourself and then listen to her. Perhaps she will be able to somehow explain her act, and it will no longer seem so monstrous to you. Perhaps in this situation there are some circumstances that you do not know about, some hidden motives from you.
Step 5
Put yourself in her shoes. Could you do the same thing? And if you did, how would you feel after? Would you like to be understood and tried to forgive in such a situation?
Step 6
Be clear about the boundaries of your forgiveness. Tell her that you are ready to give her a chance to restore the relationship, but only on the condition that she is aware of what happened and will never do this to you again.
Step 7
Don't expect the relationship to be the same right away. Even if you sincerely managed to forgive your friend, this does not mean that you trust her again in the same way as before the event that jeopardized your friendship. Time will pass, and if your loved one makes an effort to regain your faith in him, there will certainly come a time when you will feel that your forgiveness is complete.
