Betrayal has many faces and can hide behind economic interests, a desire to realize oneself or find one's own happiness. Only the person who took advantage of the closeness with you and the trust that you have placed in him can be considered a traitor. The more painful and offensive is the disappointment. But as time goes on, this person is still with you, and the question arises of forgiving him.
Instructions
Step 1
The best way to avoid betrayal is not to trust what is dear to you to strangers. Even the interests of blood relatives, at times, can come into conflict with each other. You may be ready for an honest fight, but betrayal is always unexpected, always dishonest. To protect themselves, some simply do not discuss their affairs with loved ones and do not share secrets, especially if there is a lot of money behind it. But such behavior is not typical for an ordinary person, therefore, most people are not immune from betrayal.
Step 2
If it happened, then your first step is to break up with this person. You are guided by resentment and experiencing real shock. It turns out that your friend or girlfriend, a close person, is simply not such. In this case, you need to understand and analyze what caused your offense.
Step 3
Perhaps your self-confidence has been destroyed. You thought that this would never happen to you, because you are smart, cunning, prudent and know how to understand people perfectly. Betrayal shook faith in himself. In this case, you must forgive the traitor only for the fact that he brought you back to earth in time and reminded you that you can be wrong.
Step 4
Think about the reason for the betrayal. People are rarely complete villains and scoundrels, capable of cold-blooded calculation. If your friend or girlfriend did it, then it was a necessary measure. Perhaps this was done in response to the offense that you caused them. Or, perhaps, they were cornered by circumstances, and betrayal became for them the only way out of a stalemate. Isn't that a reason to forgive?
Step 5
Another reason for forgiveness will be the inability to live with this burden in the soul. Latent resentment and thirst for revenge can destroy not only the soul, but also the body, and there are many examples of this. Draw conclusions from your mistakes and thank the traitor for the science. By forgiving, you do not show your weakness, you demonstrate your humanity and tolerance, you become stronger, stronger and wiser.
