Aggression never manifests itself without a reason, even when it comes to the behavior of an unbalanced person. Nevertheless, it is not uncommon for people to vent their evil on innocent loved ones or on strangers who simply found themselves in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Combating Unreasonable Aggression: Basic Actions
Aggression can be redirected: we are talking about situations when a person is pissed off, and he, not being able to express everything to the offender, breaks down on someone else. If you yourself become an aggressor, at the first outbursts of irritation, remind yourself that it is impossible to rip off evil on others, since this will badly affect your relationship with them. If the anger is directed at you, in no case use retaliatory aggression. Calmly, without reproach in your voice, say: “I am very sorry that someone made you so angry, and now you are angry with everyone. What happened?"
Especially often, such a model of behavior manifests itself in people who do not discard negativity, but are accustomed to accumulating it in themselves for a long time. Hot-tempered natures simply break or smash something and calm down more quickly.
Try to understand what exactly annoys you, especially if the irritation builds up day after day. Unreasonable aggression can manifest itself over and over again, so its next occurrence is better to prevent, instead of correcting the consequences. Get rid of annoying factors as much as possible. Talk to loved ones about what makes you mad. Learn to deal with problems more easily. If anger becomes uncontrollable, see a specialist and take a course in behavior correction.
If you have to deal with stress often, but have not yet learned how to cope with aggression, choose a special sign that will let your colleagues, friends, family members understand that it is better not to approach you in the near future. Talk to others and explain the situation. Since people deal with negative emotions in one way or another on a daily basis, you will surely be understood correctly. Thanks to this, unreasonable aggression will simply not be provoked.
What to do if aggression begins to manifest
Find something that helps you calm down. It is important not to extinguish negative emotions, but to throw them out, but not on others. A good option is a visit to the gym, shooting training, energetic dancing. In the end, you can just beat the pillow.
Use the method that works for you the most. If there is no way to immediately throw out negative emotions, you can use defense techniques or "short meditation" to quickly calm down.
When you feel that you are losing control of yourself, try to "intercept" the negative and either extinguish it or direct it in a different direction. Close your eyes, “disconnect” from everything that surrounds you for a few seconds, take three deep breaths and exhales. This technique allows you to avoid even a transition to a state of passion, if you apply it in time.
If someone suddenly starts behaving aggressively towards you, try redirecting their energy in a different direction. You can use unexpected, confusing lines: “I understand you perfectly, I behave the same way when I am angry. Let's go have some ice cream? Another option is to ignore the person and leave quickly. This is especially true if you are faced with aggression from a stranger in a store, cafe, or on the street. Finally, when it comes to an attack of aggression in a child, try hugging the baby and hugging him tightly, whispering soothing words.
