A great thought has ripened in your head, but you can't express it? Does modesty, shyness, or self-doubt get in the way? Learning to say whatever you think is not as easy as it might seem at first glance. What steps do you need to take to feel confident in any conversation?
Instructions
Step 1
Believe in yourself. It often happens that you have something to say, but for some reason you stand aside and keep silent? Stop thinking that your thoughts and ideas are less important and unique than those of your friends or colleagues. Each person is interesting in their own way, so don't be afraid to show people your personality. If you do not start to say what you think, then you will have to say all the time what they want to hear from you. The same will happen with actions.
Step 2
Start talking. Pick a day and say whatever comes to your mind, of course, within reason. If this task is difficult for you, then try to limit yourself to one phrase. This does not mean that you have to say what you think once. You should voice your thoughts at the exact moment in which you would like to remain silent, while knowing what to say. The next day, increase the number of phrases.
Step 3
Use your inner monologue. Ask yourself why you didn't say at one point or another what you thought. What exactly stopped you? If this is shyness, modesty, self-doubt, fear, then this must be actively combated. As soon as any of the above becomes the reason for your silence, try to overcome yourself and express your opinion. The less often you fight it, the harder it will be to start saying what you think.
Step 4
Saying everything is also far from the best option. Every time before you say something, think about whether it needs to be said, whether it will ruin the relationship, whether it will hurt your career, whether it will not be used against you. The proverb that says “always think what you say, but don't always say what you think” has not been canceled yet.
Step 5
Try to express your thoughts as often as possible: at work, with friends, in public places. Over time, you will definitely succeed.
