The most difficult thing is to erase the past from your life. More often, with the mind, a person perfectly understands that he needs to live on, no matter how wonderful the past may be. But in fact, he is not able to cope with his emotions, memories and hopes that everything will return. By the way, hope plays an evil role in this case, preventing one from freeing oneself from burdening feelings. So what can you do to forget the past?
Instructions
Step 1
Gain the strength and determination to change your life and start over. First, give yourself one day (or less) to cry and feel sorry for yourself. Cry as much as you need to. Within an hour, you will probably notice that there are no tears left. Write down all your negative emotions about what happened and burn it without rereading.
Step 2
Use NLP techniques for a successful goodbye to the past. From the point of view of this direction of psychology, those events that are less emotionally colored are more easily lost from memory. Accordingly, a decrease in the emotional brightness of events (of a person) is suitable for your purposes. Alexander Lyubimov on his website trenings.ru recommends mentally presenting photographs of a traumatic situation applied to glass and breaking it with a hammer. You can also push the image of this situation or person away from yourself as far as possible, reduce the brightness and reduce the sounds of this situation, making them faded and deaf.
Step 3
Embrace your past. Fighting it and wanting to erase it from memory will not lead to any significant result. The past can be accepted, released, learned from it, but it is impossible to make it disappear. Accept that this is a part of your life, a part of you, but a part that is already gone. Find in it a positive experience, your unique experience, and mentally put an end to that situation. Also, mentally turn your face to the future.
Step 4
Take responsibility for your destiny and don't let any people, no situations rule your destiny. A sense of responsibility for yourself will not allow you to become limp and discouraged. If it doesn't work out and you still feel sorry for yourself and want someone to fix the situation instead of you, then it's time to get angry! Get angry with yourself, with the offender - you do have self-esteem and pride in the end. Feeling angry helps to part with what is no longer relevant - with people, situations and yourself-the past, and take a step forward.
Step 5
Now step to the next level - from suffering and pity to being active. The search for new ideas, goals, hobbies, just interests, impressions should occupy your brain, your strength. Learn to live in the present, and not to return thoughts to the experiences of the past. Look for new joys and opportunities in your current situation. Use the time to your advantage, do not waste your life on useless experiences. You probably have needs, hobbies and goals that you completely forgot about. It's time to implement them!
