Perhaps the most difficult experience in a person's life is the grief associated with loss. Losing someone very close, people feel that the meaning of life is now lost. Joy disappears, an unbearable ringing emptiness is felt inside. But it is possible to survive the loss. You will come back to life, although not immediately.
Stages of experiencing the loss of loss
Of all the creatures inhabiting the planet, only people bury their loved ones. This has a special meaning: all the departed live in the memory of their loved ones. The stages of experiencing mental pain can be characterized as follows:
- shock and denial. A person simply cannot believe what happened. What is happening seems unreal. The brain is protected by shock, so that the whole weight of the experience does not fall on a person overnight. Soon, anger may appear, which is produced so that negative emotions have an outlet.
- disbelief and search. The person still cannot believe and is looking for a solution to the situation. It seems that as soon as you turn the corner, the one you lost will meet you as if nothing had happened. Some sense of the unreality of events persists. Usually this stage occurs a few days after the incident.
- acute grief. This is the most difficult stage, during which you often want to shout: "Help me through the grief!" But the acute grief stage does not last longer than 2-3 months. After them, emotions begin to subside, the pain of loss gradually decreases. This is a watershed moment in experience.
- periodic return of experiences. At this stage, the person seems to become the same, but from time to time he still experiences acute experiences, they suddenly return, still very intense. Over time, they become less common.
- completion of experiences. After a while, the acute pain disappears.
Although the pain seems unbearable, all stages of grief must be experienced. Do not try to suppress emotions, accept the fact that there is no shortcut on this road.
How to get through grief and learn to live anew
It is impossible to skip some steps of experiencing, and no one will be able to answer the question of how to learn not to worry.
- be aware of reality. Talk about how you feel with loved ones or a psychologist. Keep a diary. You are experiencing deep feelings, this is a great stress for the psyche. You need to learn to let go of everything that happens inside.
- no one can share your experiences, but you are not alone. Grief happens to every person on earth. No matter how strong your emotions are, you can cope, this is a feasible burden for a person.
- do not sit around. The person you lost occupied an important part of your life. A kind of emptiness has now formed in its place. Try to fill it with something: your favorite thing, work, hobbies, travel, or something else.
- do not withdraw into yourself, communicate with friends and family. Despite the fact that sometimes you need to be alone, you cannot completely close yourself off from communication.
