Life's troubles can sometimes unsettle even a workaholic optimist. Self-esteem is at zero, and tomorrow is an important performance. Or six months - continuous difficulties in business, lost faith in oneself and a healthy desire to resist. How to regain self-confidence, raise self-esteem?
Instructions
Step 1
The first tip for those thinking about boosting self-esteem and confidence: take time for yourself, plan for the future. If it constantly seems that the whole world is against it, you should listen to yourself. And before you put up with the world, you have to make peace with yourself. Most often, low self-esteem is the result of ignoring one's own desires, a lack of intelligible goals. Instead - vague Manilov dreams, "I want a billion or a necklace, like a movie actress."
Step 2
You need to find time for yourself personally. Calmly think about what is really worth (and can) be achieved. What does not suit you in the first place, what to get rid of. Then you will understand how to do it. And then - planning, setting immediate and distant goals. And specific, small, but systemic steps towards the goal.
Step 3
Big goals are unattainable when a person is depressed. As the first, small goals, we can recommend the formation and consolidation of good habits. To regain self-confidence, increase self-esteem, you need to pay attention to organizing your own life. Healthy sleep, daily routine, five-minute (but daily) exercise, rational nutrition are the tools for more effective human functioning. Trivial, at first glance, advice can significantly improve well-being, there will be strength to achieve goals, time for personal growth.
Step 4
It is unlikely that self-esteem, personal growth, and self-improvement are possible without intellectual development. Read books on your specialty, preferably translated. Try to develop your hobby, in the new century this hobby can become a second profession. Read classic literature, memoirs of worthy people who are your authority.
Step 5
A great way to disconnect from constant negativity, digging in yourself is active rest. It doesn't have to be mountaineering or cross-country skiing. The main thing is that the rest is varied and new. This will allow you to change the environment and the familiar environment. For example: an interesting culinary master class, an author's tour of his hometown, an exhibition of alternative art or a visit to the opera (especially if the theater was not honored before). All participants of the master class, all visitors to the exhibition are in equal conditions. This will distract from the constant comparison of yourself with other people, take a big step towards increasing self-esteem and self-confidence.
Step 6
Self-criticism is destructive and will not help raise self-esteem. You can't constantly scold yourself. The energy required for practical action is consumed. If a disgruntled voice habitually sounds in your head, an urgent need to appease the internal censor. We close his mouth as we close the tap so that water does not leak.
Step 7
Use meditation practices. Analyze your positive qualities in different areas: professional, family, emotional. Write them down on a small piece of paper and carry them with you. Skim this list often. In a difficult situation, mentally list your advantages, this will help to gain self-confidence.
Step 8
To set yourself up for tomorrow's speech (an important conversation, an interview), you can prepare a small individual mantra. Several affirmative phrases listing the best personal qualities and professional skills. Interesting motivational trainings to build self-esteem and confidence can be found on the internet.
Step 9
Listen to yourself, analyze where the main stream of negativity comes from. Perhaps this person is internally indecisive, and therefore spreads this emotion around him. And further. Don't argue with fools. Their opinion is unlikely to reflect reality. It is advisable to spend energy on your own development and the achievement of specific individual results.
Step 10
It is worth understanding that raising self-esteem and self-confidence is not very difficult. Numerous trainings on the Internet will help to do this, among them there are many high-quality and free ones. But the most important thing is to stabilize self-esteem (so that it does not drop at all). Here you will have to seek help only from professional psychologists.
