Not everyone can boast of oratory. But if you wish, almost anything is possible. The gift of persuasion is trainable. It will be useful to you both in career advancement and in friendly discussions. Let's get acquainted with effective tips on how to convince the interlocutor.
Instructions
Step 1
Use the right words. Any belief is a competently and logically composed speech. For example, you are an ordinary seller of winter shoes.. You need to attract buyers so that they choose your product. Instead of formulaic and florid phrases that these models are fashionable today and look great on the leg, speak clearly and to the point! Winter is a cold season with ice and injuries. And these shoes are warm, reliable and comfortable. Together, these three elephant words will have the necessary impact on a person and help you actively promote a product or service.
Step 2
Be on the same language wavelength with your interlocutor. What does it mean? Study the person before entering the "battle". If he does not use slang in speech, then you do not need it either. If he jokes often, then you do not lag behind in wit. The same approach should be applied to non-verbal communication. With an emotional interlocutor, you can behave openly and lively. You should be more restrained with introverts.
Step 3
You have to look dignified, but at the same time without any arrogance and pathos. A pleasant appearance always attracts the sympathy of others. However, you should not try to be more fashionable and glamorous than everyone else. Remember that the interlocutor whom you want to convince of something must have a place one step higher than yours. After all, he can always say no. And then the failure of your whole image.
Step 4
Create a comfortable conversation environment. You can convince the interlocutor with the right approach by phone, email or in person. The latter option is, of course, especially effective, because here you can use several "magnets" at once: gestures, a glance, the interlocutor's reaction. But often you have to play by someone else's rules. Therefore, you need to learn to adapt to them and build individual tactics. Do not forget about the right timing. It should suit, first of all, the interlocutor.
Step 5
Do not clutter your speech with various "uh" and "aaa", often repeated words like "that is", "in general", interrogative "yes". This is annoying and boring. In this case, you can only lose confidence, and not convince the interlocutor. The best way to cleanse your speech of such "verbal rubbish" is to practice at home with a voice recorder and in front of a mirror. So you can listen and look at yourself from the outside.
Step 6
Control your emotions. Positive, logical judgment and confidence should come from you. If you raise your tone, actively gesticulate, trying to prove your case, this will play a cruel joke with you and simply scare the interlocutor. Be a director, not an actor.
Step 7
Listen, repeat and analyze the thoughts of the interlocutor. By repeating the key logical link, you make it clear to the person that you are listening to him, you understand. In this case, you can express your position, your opinion. For example, a phrase can be structured like this: “If I understand everything correctly, then you think that … This is reasonable, I understand. (pause) I think it will be more effective if …”. Just do not use oppositions like "but", "all the same" or "however." This immediately builds a wall between you and the other person. Just suggest options and don't forget to back them up with arguments.
