People who know how to communicate competently and correctly are good interlocutors, as a rule, they are successful in business, realized in their personal lives, other people are always drawn to them like a magnet.
Instructions
Step 1
It's easy to become a good conversationalist; you just need to use some rules. First, you should always have interesting stories in stock. It is good if they are new, real, amazing or extraordinary.
Step 2
Second, learn to joke. Laughter prolongs life and is always a good way out of awkward situations. People with a great sense of humor are statistically happy in all spheres of life; they are often matched by those who smile a little and cannot afford to be relaxed. A high spirits and a relaxed smile will always be a source of attraction to you.
Step 3
Third, learn to compliment. It is important that they are sincere and correct. Since sometimes the wrong compliment can cross out a good opinion and impression of you. A compliment should be from the heart and aimed in the right direction, then it will be appropriate.
Step 4
Learn to listen. Not pretending that you are interested - you can feel it. Your interest should be genuine, delve into the story of the interlocutor, ask for details or clarify some facts. Then the interlocutor will want to communicate with you even more.
Step 5
When talking to the person you are talking to, look into their eyes. This way, you show that you are not hiding anything and make it clear that you are truly interested in the conversation.
Step 6
Don't ask unnecessary questions, otherwise an interesting story or simple narrative will turn into an interrogation. There is a middle ground between some clarifications and excessive intrusiveness.
Step 7
Try not to interrupt the other person. Even if you don't like something or the story you are being told seems inappropriate or untrue, listen to it to the end anyway. In any case, do not criticize the interlocutor. If you want to make a comment, then it is better to do it not in the company, but individually, then it will be perceived not as criticism, but as good advice. Excessive praise is also inappropriate. It looks very funny and out of place.
Step 8
“It doesn't matter what you say, it’s important how you do it” is a well-known phrase. The delivered voice, correct speech, facial expressions and gestures all combine to make an indelible impression on the interlocutor.
Step 9
The last and not unimportant rule on the path to becoming a good conversationalist is practice. The more you communicate, with new people, the faster your skill grows, the more pleasant it will be to communicate with you, and the faster you will be realized as a good interlocutor.
