The ability to listen to the interlocutor will be useful to you both in your personal life and at work. Be more attentive to the interlocutor, demonstrate understanding, ask clarifying questions, and you will be able to establish contact with the person.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to feel genuine interest in the person you are talking to. Believe me, people on a subconscious level feel a special attitude towards themselves from others and appreciate it. Find something special, remarkable in a person. Find what you can learn from him. Learn to see the strengths of others and notice their talents. This will help you develop true respect for your interlocutor.
Step 2
Focus on the topic of the conversation. You should not be distracted by extraneous thoughts and deeds, this is not polite. Your neglect can offend the person. If you do not have time to chat at the moment, it is better to tactfully inform about it and schedule another time for the meeting. When you need to urgently perform a one-minute operation, ask the other person to wait. Show that you want to devote yourself entirely to the conversation.
Step 3
Show your attention. Keep eye contact with the person. It is important not only to look at the interlocutor with a bored look, but to show that you are interested in the topic of conversation. Watch for the emotions that are reflected on the person's face. This will give you a better understanding of what the conversation is about than just using words. Sometimes a certain facial expression gives a different meaning to a phrase. You should also pay attention to the intonation with which the person is speaking. This will help you get a better understanding of his point.
Step 4
Ask clarifying questions. If something is not completely clear to you, clarify a certain point. Only this must be done very tactfully. When your interlocutor is very passionate about his story and excitedly conveys some events to you, you should not interrupt him. Not only is this not polite, but it can also knock a person out of their minds.
Step 5
Be patient. Some people like to talk more for themselves. It can be seen from such personalities that they are just waiting for their interlocutor to finish the phrase in order to speak out when their turn comes. From the outside, it doesn't look very nice. Show respect for the other person and truly immerse yourself in the other person's story.
Step 6
Learn to set aside stereotypes. Don't be prejudiced when listening to another person's story. Do not think out for those around you. Consider only the facts. Erroneous judgments can cause you to misinterpret the words of the interlocutor. In addition, it is important not to argue with the person, but to give him the opportunity to convince you that he is right.
Step 7
Practice listening at home. Put on a recording with a short story, listen to it once. Then try to convey what you heard. You can even write down the information you remember. Then turn on the recorded history again and check the records. It may turn out that you not only missed significant details, but also concocted false facts or distorted the very essence of the story. This exercise clearly demonstrates how important it is to listen carefully to the speech of the interlocutor.
