You will soon be a dad. You may think that your role in the life of the baby will begin after his birth, but this is not so. More depends on your behavior and relationship with your spouse than you might imagine. The wife is nervous, capricious, complains of ailments and requires increased attention. How to respond to these changes and how to make the expectant mother happy?
The most important thing a man needs to remember is that in the next nine months he is dealing not only with the woman he loves, but also with the surging hormones and changes taking place inside her. Some women behave almost unchanged, while others change beyond recognition. These mood swings and strange whims are not always controllable. If your wife is not pregnant for the first time, her behavior may differ from her previous pregnancy. It depends on physiological and psychological factors. Don't look for "her old" until your baby is born.
A pregnant woman often suffers from toxicosis, heartburn, insomnia, edema and gets tired much faster than before. You will have to take on some of the household chores and lower your expectations a little from the variety of hot dishes on the table. Offer your help, do not wait to be asked about it. In some families, wives are embarrassed to involve the husband in cooking, washing and cleaning. Just grab a broom or vacuum cleaner and do what you see fit.
In the later stages, you may need it in even more piquant situations. For example, you may need your help putting on socks or shoes. The wife may ask for a massage because of pain in her legs or lower back. Do not deny her such services. This can greatly ease her condition, and support and caring will only strengthen your relationship.
You've probably heard stories about the search for watermelons on a January night. During pregnancy, the body requires the missing substances in a sophisticated way. Someone is drawn to chew whitewash or clay, and someone is dumbfounded from the smell of beer. There are those lucky women whose gustatory "passions" extend to the most ordinary and affordable products. If your spouse asks for exotic dishes, try to find them as much as you can, make an effort. Don't be afraid to spoil your wife. This is temporary.
If you think your spouse is "going too far", exaggerating, wanting too much from you, talk to friends who already have children. Let them tell you how they got through the pregnancy. You will be able to see that in every family everything is different, and your wife may seem like an angel to you compared to others.
Emotionality of the pregnant woman is at the limit. These are flashes of irritation and increased tearfulness. Sometimes you just have to endure. Sometimes you need support and encouragement. Don't laugh if your wife is crying over a scene from a melodrama or out of emotion at the sight of a neighbor's baby. If your spouse is hurt or worried, talk to her, say kind words, show that you understand and share her feelings. Say, "Everything will be fine, we can handle it."
Carrying a child, a woman gains weight, becomes clumsy, clumsy. Some people develop age spots, stretch marks and other cosmetic defects. Much of the above disappears after childbirth, but a woman wants to feel irresistible today. Compliment your wife, give flowers, hug, emphasize the beauty of her changes, not flaws.
Be sure to talk to your unborn child. The sooner you start to establish contact with your baby, the easier it will be for you to get to know and love each other after his birth. Do not be shy! It looks very cute and makes the mom-to-be happy. You can stroke your belly, tell stories, sing songs, or just share an event from your current life. From the second half of pregnancy, your baby hears you and remembers your voice.
Remember that the health of your unborn child and the course of pregnancy depends on the psychological comfort of your spouse. Try to create all the conditions so that your wife has as many reasons for joy as possible, so that she does not leave the feeling that she is loved, and the future of your family is safe.
