If you often take offense at someone's words or actions, this is a reason to analyze your behavior. It is quite possible that no one was going to offend you, and the whole situation is not worth a damn. It is necessary to fight against insults over trifles. After all, they poison life, spoil the nerves and underestimate self-esteem.
Instructions
Step 1
Imagine that many years have passed, five or ten. Look at the situation from the future. Are you going to worry and cry in ten years? It is unlikely that you even remember that now you are so upset. Then what is the point of concealing a grudge and mentally chewing something that will not affect your future life in any way.
Step 2
Clarify the situation. Do not be afraid to ask your interlocutor what he means and why he speaks this way. It is possible that people did not even have thoughts of offending you. You just misunderstood each other.
Step 3
Drop your emotions. Describe your problems in your mind the way TV news anchors do. Say only the facts. If you do not take into account the emotional coloring, it often turns out that there is nothing to be offended at.
Step 4
React constructively to criticism. There is no point in being offended when you are criticized. On the contrary, this is a good reason to take a closer look at yourself and your work and, perhaps, change something. Well, if you think that you are impeccable, then even more there is no reason for offense. After all, they do not criticize only those who do nothing at all and do not represent anything of themselves.
Step 5
Step into the shoes of your abuser. Try to get into his skin and look at the situation through his eyes. How would you behave in his place? Perhaps you were wrong, and your opponent simply could not hold back his emotions. Forgive him and forget about the offense with a light heart.
Step 6
Change your surroundings. People are often nervous and offended by trifles when the nervous system is exhausted. Go on vacation, chat with new people, explore new places. Upon your return, you will not even remember the grievances that so poisoned your life.
Step 7
Contact a specialist if you cannot cope with constant grievances over trifles in any way. A competent psychologist will help you understand the reasons for your behavior and teach you how to competently cope with the situation.
