Conflicts happen even between people who love and understand each other, and in a work collective they are, perhaps, inevitable. Of course, one should not expect a constant attack from colleagues and acquaintances, but one must be ready to get out of any situation without any special moral losses.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not be too frank with colleagues and casual acquaintances, do not share details of your personal life unless absolutely necessary. Not too decent, or even just tactless people can use this information for evil.
Step 2
Do not participate in the discussion of the personal life of other people, do not comment on the revelations that gossipers share with you. The commandment "Do not do to your neighbor what you do not wish for yourself" will never lose its relevance.
Step 3
If you were asked a tactless question on a personal topic, do not rush to answer - first, consider the intentions of the interlocutor. Perhaps he is genuinely worried about you, he just did not think that the discussion might be unpleasant for you. In this case, answer simply: "Solving this problem" and return to the activity from which you were torn away.
Step 4
If you have reason to suspect that your interlocutor wants to hurt you or refers to people of whom they say: "Simplicity is worse than stealing," look at him with a long, studying look of an entomologist who met an unfamiliar species of butterflies.
Step 5
During this time, try to come up with an answer that will discourage the curious from asking such questions. For example, a colleague sympathetically asks: “Why are you all alone and alone? When will you get married? " You can answer with a sigh: "Yes, just as I look at the families of my acquaintances, I'll think about why I need this … Take at least you …"
Step 6
If the interlocutor asks what is wrong with her family, you will be sincerely surprised: “What, don’t you know?..” You don’t have to specify what the problem is, if you don’t know yourself, just deny it: “Okay, forget it. The less you know the better you sleep…"
Step 7
If the "kind woman" happily hints that you have greatly recovered, complain to her about the sweetheart who fed you ice cream. You are not happy that you told him about your weakness - so now he carries you all sorts of ice cream and cakes …
Step 8
Perhaps colleagues are trying to dump their job responsibilities on you. A couple of times you have done them a favor, and somehow, unexpectedly, their work has become yours. Next time, suggest, “Okay, I’ll work for you, but then you’ll work for me. It is necessary to do points "a", "b" and "c", while I will do "d" and "e" for you. " Or laugh it off: "If you are already asking to fulfill your official duties, maybe share with me your official salary?"
Step 9
Sometimes you have to deal with aggression in transport or in public places. It is not worth responding with rudeness to rudeness - in the eyes of others you will look as bad as your opponent. Try to do something unexpected to confuse the brawler. For example, say with a smile: “Woman (man), you are so beautiful (handsome)! And it doesn't suit you when you are angry."
