Psychologists call resentment not only unpleasant, but also dangerous. Negative emotions such as anger, hatred, anger, aggression, a desire for revenge, and even depression can grow out of it. Therefore, it is very important not to allow resentment to take over.
Instructions
Step 1
Most often, they are offended because a person does not do what you want. Understand that people around you, in fact, do not owe you anything. No matter how close a person is, he is a separate independent person. If he does something for you, be grateful. If he refuses, this is his right. Learn to take good deeds towards yourself as a gift, not for granted. Remember that you are primarily focused on solving your problems (of course, if you are not Mother Teresa), and only then - to help others.
Step 2
Another way to deal with resentment is to look at the situation as if from the future. Imagine that 20 years have passed - would you remember your today's offense? Most probably not. So what's the point in getting upset over things that won't matter in the future.
Step 3
If the resentment is very strong, and you are sure that you will remember it in 20 years, try to forgive the offender. Otherwise, the only thing your suffering will lead to is depression and a thirst for revenge. Remember that by forgiving you, first of all, do yourself, and not the offender.
Step 4
If someone offends you on purpose, and not accidentally, then he, most likely, knows your resentment and he uses your weakness for his own purposes. Therefore, try to pretend that you do not care about his words. When a person realizes that he cannot "prick" you, he will simply lag behind.
Step 5
Understand that resentment is essentially a childish feeling. When we were little, you could make a sad face, cry and get what you want. But in the adult world, the rules are different. Just because you are offended, you will not be met. Therefore, it makes no sense to react in such a way to what you do not like - it is better to calmly listen to the "offender" and draw the right conclusions.
Step 6
You can also feel sorry for the offender. Psychologists believe that a happy person cannot want to offend or humiliate another - on the contrary, he will want to cheer us up and make us happy. Therefore, remember that the abuser feels bad at heart. And by humiliating you, he is trying to alleviate his condition.
