Trust is a kind of admission of a person into his own psychological space. It is difficult to conquer, but you can lose in no time. How to approach a person so close psychologically that he begins to trust?
Instructions
Step 1
Study the person and their habits. Most of all, people tend to trust those who are like them. Start by looking for similar interests. If you can, study as much as you can about the person's area of interest. A soul mate is more likely to trust secrets and secrets, let them into the depths of their souls. Therefore, if there are no common interests, form them. This is exactly what the suck-up students at school and the career students at the university take advantage of. Yes, they are interested in the subject and know how to tell the teacher about their interest. They have a lot to learn. So you learn to unobtrusively demonstrate your sympathy for the views of the interlocutor. In addition, try to imitate the personality traits of the interlocutor, because not only interests are important, but also your essence. A timid person is more likely to trust a timid person, a decisive person will rather trust the same decisive one.
Step 2
Conduct yourself to be trustworthy. Train yourself to keep secrets stricter than those of the state. In no case do not share other people's revelations with the person whose trust you want to win. But you can share your secrets, this will dispose the interlocutor to the same frankness. The main thing is to choose the right communication distance and behave carefully, quickly noticing any manifestations of discontent on the part of the interlocutor and adjusting your behavior. If you become trustworthy, you will get it, although for some people this process can be very long.
Step 3
Think about your motives. You can try to enter into trust only in cases when you wish the person well. You cannot use such methods to hurt a person or use him - and not pay with your time and attention for the services rendered. The fact is that it is betrayal that people are least inclined to forgive. And they also take revenge very harshly and cruelly for betrayal. So think about why you need trust.
