During life, there are situations when even the most confident person suffers from feelings of jealousy. What makes people torment themselves with doubts and questions, and others with suspicion and mistrust?
The origins of jealousy
Psychological scientists define jealousy as a negative feeling generated by a feeling of insufficient attention, sympathy, or love. At the same time, in the opinion of the jealous person, someone else gets everything that is missing. Since jealousy is a rather irrational feeling, in fact, there may not be any "third", and the reason for the decrease in sympathy lies in something else. However, a person is designed in such a way that he tries to look for the simplest explanation for what is happening, and treason can often become such an explanation.
As a rule, the reasons for jealousy should be looked for in childhood, when the child felt a lack of parental love for himself. The most common situation is the birth of a younger brother or sister, who attracts most of the parental attention. However, it also happens that children are jealous of their parents for work, friends, hobbies. Childhood jealousy and resentment can be controlled by directing anger in a creative direction: if a child is praised for certain positive actions, he will try to do just them in order to attract attention and love to himself.
It is believed that in men, the main emotion during bouts of jealousy is anger, while in women it is fear. That is why most of the crimes motivated by jealousy are committed by males.
Jealousy of adults
In the adult state, jealousy in most cases is directly related to self-doubt. While admitting the idea that a partner may prefer another person, a jealous person simultaneously admits that there are people who are superior to him. This happens especially often with men who are used to constant rivalry.
Also, the cause of jealousy can be a subconscious fear of losing a partner, which is usually based on distrust. Finally, many people are jealous, simply because they are ownership by nature. They claim all possible attention and completeness of their partner's feelings, jealous of every little thing that can distract from their person.
The jealousy of women is based on the fear of their own imperfection, especially during pregnancy. At this time, a man should be especially attentive to his companion.
If a person is insecure, does not trust his partner, or does not want to share with anyone, then there is always a reason for jealousy. It could be a note, hair, perfume, a phone call, or just a figment of a fevered imagination. To resolve the situation, it is necessary not to eliminate the reasons, but to fight the causes of such behavior. Having a frank conversation about feelings and emotions is likely to be helpful, especially if it is done with the participation of a good therapist.
