Household vampires are very dangerous to humans. They, of course, of course, do not drink blood in the literal sense, but with appetite they eat our good mood, vital energy - spiritual, sexual and creative, poison us the joy of life, bring discord in relationships with people.
Household vampires are divided into two types. Some are aggressors who actively interfere in our lives, while others look like harmless people, but for some reason, in communicating with them, we behave like puppets on strings and feel a sense of inexplicable guilt. Both aggressive and passive vampires have one thing in common: they interfere in our life, bring negative emotions into it and make it unbearable.
A vampire-aggressor, looking for someone to blame for everyone and everything, will surely infect you with his negativity, sarcasm, and indignation. If you become addicted to it, you will be to blame for everything! He will express dissatisfaction with life, projecting it on those who are nearby, subject to constant sharp criticism of everything you do, devalue your work, thoughts, your personality. And only by bringing the victim to an emotional explosion, the aggressor vampire will calm down. He will feel satisfied.
The quiet vampire, on the other hand, looks very unhappy. Shyly looks into the eyes, loads with his problems, complains. aches, forces you to spend time, money and effort on solving his problems. You will feel a duty to such a person - to support, comfort, dissuade from stupid actions and even suicide. At the same time, he will mercilessly scold, humiliate, blame himself for all the misfortunes of the world, but in the end, your mood will be spoiled, your strength will be wasted, and your psyche will be suppressed.
How to free yourself from the unwanted consequences of communicating with carriers of negativity? If you are dealing with an aggressor vampire, try to stop communication, reduce it to zero. This is especially difficult if the aggressor vampire is brought in by a close relative. In this case, the decision must be made tough: to disperse, remembering the proverb: "The further - the dearer."
To respond with aggression to aggression means that you are entering into a conflict, where you will surely lose. After conflicts with an aggressor vampire, health worsens, mood disappears, everything falls out of hand, and a person becomes open to all sorts of everyday failures.
If you have contact with a whiner vampire, make it clear that you are not going to waste time on someone else's life. The attempt to turn the endless problems of the whining vampire into yours should be nipped, politely but relentlessly.
You can refer to being busy, invent a reason why you should leave the common space. Do not be afraid that you will be misunderstood: feeling awkward, feeling guilty is one of the tricks of the whining vampire. If you give a weakness, the trick will instantly turn into a stranglehold on your neck.
If you do not have the opportunity to rid yourself of annoying communication, you can use the technique of "repulsion". During stormy emotional outpourings, try to switch attention: look at the landscape outside the window, draw patterns on paper with a ballpoint pen, get busy. Even if it looks demonstrative - you will distract the devourer of your life energy, puzzle him.
During a conversation, you can cross your arms over your chest. Such a simple folk way as "a fig in your pocket" helps. Looking at such an interlocutor, look not in the eyes, but at the bridge of the nose between the eyes. This blocks the outflow of your energy and neutralizes impulses that are destructive to your psyche.
Do not share personal information with the vampire. Envy, inner negativity - all this leads to a situation that is popularly called the "evil eye". At the heart of the evil eye is mental programming that will start working exactly when you don't expect it. To "turn on" a harmful life program, it is enough to experience a feeling of annoyance and irritation.
For the same reason, one should not consume alcoholic beverages in the society of negatively minded people. You won't notice how you get drunk, and when drunk, the brain is vulnerable, critical thinking weakens, protection is reduced, you are open - therefore, defenseless. Your subconscious mind absorbs other people's information, as they say, "without words." And then you yourself, with the help of your subconscious, will begin to destroy your life, not understanding why everything is going so badly for you.
Most importantly, try to distance yourself from what is happening, do not take what is happening seriously. Include a sense of humor, don't be afraid to look derisive. Vampires hate a sense of humor when it comes to them personally. Ironic remarks, perhaps, will annoy the vampire, but on the other hand, he will lose the desire to communicate with you for a long time.
