Probably, many have noticed that after communicating with some people, wings seem to grow, all things are done in one breath, and a good mood just rolls over. Dialogue with others, on the other hand, causes fatigue and weakness, it seems that instead of having an hour of tea, you carried sacks of potatoes all day. Usually this result is obtained when communicating with an energy vampire, which takes away your vitality, health and good mood. How to avoid becoming a victim of an energy vampire?
Few people know, but there are quite a few energy vampires around us, these can be colleagues or bosses at work, close relatives or friends, supermarket sellers, etc.
- unconscious;
- conscious.
The first category of energy vampires is fed by someone else's energy as if by accident, for example, during stress or illness. Conscious vampires consciously absorb other people's energy, trying to take away all moral strength to improve their own state and mood.
These are the people who are always ready to listen and advise, serve as a kind of vest in which you can cry at any time. Such people are hardly happy in their personal lives and, listening to other people's problems, are temporarily distracted from their own.
A certain category of people cannot deny anyone and anything, and energy vampires actively use this, because they know that they will not hear the word "no" in any situation. If you have a desire to listen to other people's troubles and groans, then please, this is your right. If the endless complaints and whining are fed up with the order, then we learn to say no. One of the most effective ways to learn to refuse is to get angry, tell yourself that you no longer want to hear about other people's negativity, that you are tired of daily complaints and endless lamentations, and so on. Refusing to once again be a vest, many people are afraid of offending their opponent, perhaps at first it will be so, but then the energy vampire will find you an equivalent replacement.
If you cannot completely refuse to communicate with an energy vampire, then strictly dose the communication time, for example, if the phone rings, feel free to answer, but at the same time say that you are free for only 5-10 minutes, and you simply cannot speak longer. If you repeat this simple technique several times, the energy vampire will turn his attention to someone else.
The next time you are approached with a complaint or in a bad mood, feel free to ask what help you can provide. If a vampire really needs help, then he will certainly voice the problem, well, for example, borrow some money or sit with a child. If a person is confused and he just needs to drain his negative emotions, try to avoid the conversation, otherwise you will feel like a squeezed lemon all evening.
If there is a person in your environment who communicates with you only in order to throw off his negativity, advise him to go in for sports, dance or do a large-scale cleaning in order to leave negative energy there.
