Are you surprised to notice that your husband or friend is increasingly playing scenes of jealousy, and, moreover, without the slightest reason on your part? What is the reason for this phenomenon, why are we jealous of a loved one? Can you stop being jealous?
At its core, jealousy is an outward manifestation of an inner inferiority complex. Every jealous person deep down is afraid to remain unloved, because he thinks that he is far from ideal and there is simply nothing to love him for. That is why he clings to a loved one, like a straw, because he is afraid that having lost him, he will no longer find anyone who would love him.
As a rule, trying to keep the object of love near them with the help of scenes of jealousy, jealous people achieve the opposite effect. Such manifestations of love in a normal person cause a natural desire to stay away from such a jealous person. So the further the relationship goes, the more reasons for jealousy are found. And such a relationship usually ends in a break.
You can get out of the impasse in a relationship only if the jealous person realizes that the object of love is not the only light in the window for him. It is necessary for him to become a self-sufficient and self-confident person. To do this, you need to improve yourself and find hobbies to your liking, so that you can spend some time away from your loved one and let him breathe freely.
Of course, the root of the problem lies much deeper than simply understanding it. Often, jealous people themselves suffer greatly from their jealousy, but they cannot help themselves. In this case, a consultation with a psychologist can help.
