If there is an energy vampire among friends, the surest and easiest way to get rid of its effects is to reduce contact with this person as much as possible or completely break any connection. But what if it is impossible to do something like that? How to counter an energy vampire?
Controlling emotions and reactions. Being near an energy vampire can be very difficult to control your emotions, to follow your actions. This is especially difficult for people who by nature tend to be victims of such personalities, have a gentle character and easily fall into the networks of manipulation. However, we must try not to be led by provocations. It is worth being as restrained as possible, maintaining a certain distance, not having long conversations with a toxic person. If there is a feeling that it is becoming very difficult to maintain some kind of strong emotional reaction, it is necessary at least for a while to leave the room where the energy vampire is.
Learn to say no and not be afraid of tactlessness. It is important to remember that energy vampires are very easily rubbed into trust and violate any personal boundaries. They can be arrogant, self-confident. Do not be afraid to refuse such a person, be afraid to offend or offend him. Sometimes the best way to confront such a toxic person is to attack. You should not stoop to rudeness and very rude answers, but you need to learn how to defend your personal boundaries. Everyone has the right to say “no” in response to any requests or demands, this must always be remembered. However, it is important to refrain from arguments, especially emotional ones, with energy vampires. It is best to calmly, but as firmly as possible, explain your position in a nutshell, and then complete the communication. In addition, a closed position - arms or legs crossed - can help withstand pressure from the side. It is not recommended to look an energy vampire in the eyes, so as not to establish a strong emotional contact in this way.
Prohibition of revelation. Gullible and open people who readily share their feelings and thoughts attract the attention of vampires very much. It is easier to "dissolve" such people, provoke them, it is easier to control them. Toxic individuals have a peculiarity: to turn all the revelations and secrets they have heard against the person. Therefore, we must try not to tell the energy vampire about their experiences and worries, negative emotions of such people attract and nourish even more. In addition, one must try to create such a situation when communicating with an energy vampire so that he also cannot talk a lot, for a long time and frankly about the hardships and sorrows of his life. By cheering or consoling the energy vampire, the victim only strengthens the bond with his tormentor. It is necessary to treat the flow of information from a toxic person as coldly as possible, to close mentally from its emotional impact, not to believe everything that you hear, since energy vampires have a very strong tendency to lie.
Mirroring. This method usually works great and is available to every donor-victim. Forced to contact with an energy vampire, you need to start mirroring his posture, his movements, facial expressions, intonation in his voice, and so on. From the outside, this may look very comical, but energy vampires are extremely negative about such behavior and, as a rule, leave their victim alone faster. Jokes, a frivolous attitude towards the words of a toxic person act as special irritants that will discourage such a person.
