An unexpected dismissal by the strength of the stress experienced is practically not inferior to divorce and betrayal of a loved one. Loss of a job can result in low self-esteem, depression, insomnia, and other health and mental problems. To survive a layoff with minimal loss, you need to go through all the stages of a stressful situation and reach the productive stage of acceptance as soon as possible, when you can make quality decisions.
Instructions
Step 1
Allow yourself to go through all four negative stages of stress. In the phase of denial, a person is in shock and practically does not realize what is happening. During a period of anger, emotions and aggression awaken in him: a person who has lost his job begins to be angry with his employers, and with himself, and with life. The next stage is the bidding stage: "If I can attract a new partner, the boss will call me back." The final negative stage is depression, which attacks the person when he realizes that his efforts to return to work are in vain.
Step 2
Negative emotions cannot be driven inward and tried to contain. If anger rushes out, find a way to vent it. Put on your boxing gloves and beat the punching bag, pretending to be your former boss. Pour your heart out to friends and acquaintances - the more often you tell your story, the less emotions you feel about it. Over time, the circumstances of your dismissal will begin to seem insignificant and your attitude towards this event will change.
Step 3
The negative stress stages can last for weeks, but don't let them stretch out for months or years. Use the "Alarm Clock" psychological technique. "Start" your internal alarm clock for a certain period, and after the expiration of the set time, pull yourself together and start acting constructively.
Step 4
By splashing out all negative emotions, you will get to the stage of acceptance. This stage will give you the opportunity to analyze your mistakes that led to your dismissal, as well as give you the strength to move on.
Step 5
Make a list of the positive aspects of your dismissal. For example, now you don’t have to endure your boss’s reprimands, work overtime, and commute to work across the city. It is important for you now to learn to see new opportunities and prospects. Make your life motto the expression: "Whatever is done - it's all for the best."
Step 6
Analyze the reasons for your dismissal. You should not pay attention to factors such as downsizing, crisis, stupid boss. Most likely, the inner desire to find a new job still took place, admit it to yourself. Think about the kind of job you would like to have. Write down all the skills and knowledge required for the desired position. Then mark the items that you do not have, and start filling them out.
Step 7
Start looking for a new job. Use all possible types of search - employment services, acquaintances, advertisements in the media, sites on the Internet. During employment, maintain a working person's daily routine - this will help you keep yourself in shape and not relax too much. Treat getting fired and looking for a job like a test of strength, which you will succeed in successfully passing.
