Losing our job, we lose not only a stable income, but also a part of ourselves, our status, our circle of friends. In such situations, emotions overwhelm us, and we risk falling into one of three extremes: drowning in self-pity, crying on the shoulder of our neighbor, furiously blaming our boss and the villainess fate, or withdrawing into ourselves and with all our might to pretend that nothing happened … What can you do to calm your inner hurricane of feelings and come to terms with new circumstances?
Instructions
Step 1
After hearing that you've been fired and experiencing the first outburst of emotions, do not indulge in deep thought about what you did wrong. Such questions will arise for you, but do not let them occupy all your thoughts. This situation has already been left behind, and you are not yet ready to draw conclusions for the future.
Step 2
Protect your self-esteem. Getting fired doesn't make you a failure or a bad specialist. It is possible that this happened for reasons beyond your control. In order not to get completely off track, instead of self-accusation, remember your merits, victories and achievements. Better to capture them on paper. Add to this a list of your values that stayed with you after losing your job: family, children, friends, hobbies and experiences. You will see that not everything has "collapsed", but only a part of your "puzzle", which you will replace with a new one.
Step 3
Complaining to everyone, of course, is not worth it, but one frank conversation with a loved one will help you to look at the situation from the outside, to speak out. If this is not enough for you, start keeping a journal describing your thoughts and feelings in it.
Step 4
Try to leave with dignity, while maintaining your "face" and normal relationships with colleagues. Changing your position will help you tune in. Act as if you yourself decided to quit. Thank colleagues for their cooperation, put documents and workplace in order.
Step 5
After the passions have subsided, start working on the mistakes. Try to figure out what in this situation depended on you and what did not. If you still feel that you have not made enough effort, are often late, and so on, try not to repeat this in your new job.
Before sending out your resume, think about whether it's time to change your profession or move to a higher level. Getting fired can be an opportunity that will push you towards change and development.
