Shy people often cannot adequately respond to boors and tactless interlocutors. Then, analyzing the conflict that occurred, the person finds the right words and intonation, but it's too late. In order not to get into a humiliating position anymore, you need to think over your behavior in a given situation in advance.
Always try to answer politely and behave with dignity. You should not be ashamed of yourself, either in the present or in the future. Try to embarrass the offender with your calm reaction, who expects angry and impulsive attacks on him. Control your emotions, you should not show your opponent your frustration and embarrassment, such a reaction will only please the enemy.
Do not leave the abuser's attacks unpunished. Otherwise, he will feel your weakness, this will let him know that you are an easy "victim" because you do not stand up for yourself. You can try to ignore the boor, but you must do it with dignity. Keep a cool head, you can throw an ironic or condescending glance at your opponent.
To give the right rebuff to the enemy, use all your sarcasm and malice, do not take offensive words addressed to you seriously, make fun of the offender. Try to "sting" the enemy as painfully as possible, find his weak point. It will be much more difficult for a ham to argue with you if you treat this situation with humor. The offender will be embarrassed and look very stupid.
To prevent your opponent from catching you by surprise, prepare several universal response phrases in advance. Scroll through several possible dialogues in your head, in a real argument you will feel more confident and will be able to quickly find the right words. In this case, you will have an advantage, because your abuser will argue under the influence of emotion, and not cold calculation.
In some cases, a reciprocal rudeness is necessary. This is applicable only as a last resort, if it is impossible to communicate differently with a specific abuser in this situation. You must concentrate all the accumulated negative in yourself and throw it out on your opponent, do not hesitate in strong expressions, you must crush the enemy with your energy. In this case, you will not only stand up for yourself, but also let off steam.
If you protect yourself in this way in a conversation with boors, it will discourage them from talking with you in an aggressive manner. But in any case, you need to start retaliatory actions with cold politeness, without aggression.
