People suffering from social phobia often keep in themselves not only such an important and complex psychological problem, but also have a number of bad habits that only exacerbate the situation. In such cases, it is important to understand the reasons for the appearance and get rid of them as soon as possible.
In short, if a person has any problems with social interaction, he will always have the tools to reinforce this very fear. A person has uncomfortable situations in life, hence the desire to drown out the stress received from there by receiving positive hormones.
In fact, the whole emotional reinforcement situation is due to purely biological reasons. For example, people suffering from porn addiction, craving for computer games, smoking, alcohol, and so on, receive an instant increase in dopamines, serotonins, endorphins - hormones responsible for obtaining pleasure.
Over time, such people develop a strong dependence on these hormonal surges, more and more of them are no longer satisfied with real life, real communication with people, communication. Over time, their brains are rebuilt to match what the person presents to him. As a result, receptors that are sensitive to these hormones are simply drowned out. Such a person develops chronic dissatisfaction, unwillingness to live and develop.
Stable neural connections appear in the brain. If, for example, a person is frightened of a public speech, experienced severe stress at work, his subconscious mind will always prompt an “excellent” way to release negative emotions, to obtain positive ones. The employee will want to take another drag on harmful tobacco, watch pornography on the Internet, eat something sweet and high in calories. In short, associative thinking works in an unnecessary direction.
How to fix?
As paradoxical as it may sound, there is no point in dealing with addictions until the anxiety in communication with people disappears. Until you have a permanent partner in a relationship. Porn addiction, like many other addictions, disappear only if there is no difficulty in meeting people in absolutely any place.
It follows from this that the first thing to do is to work on yourself, perhaps to sign up for a psychologist. It is worth starting from the very bottom, from the causes of bad habits, and not from the consequences. If you try to "take out" by efforts of will, by daily overcoming yourself, sooner or later a breakdown will occur, which will become even stronger than before. This is depression, wild anxiety, constant experiences. Of course, there are people who have overcome addiction in this way, but this is rare.
To summarize, bad habits are a very dangerous thing for psychological and physical health, the solution of problems with them should not be postponed indefinitely, since every year the neural connections in the brain are strengthened more and more. Work on your own perception of the world, on interaction with people around you, this is one of the most important aspects in getting rid of harmful addictions.
