If someone with social phobia is asked why he leaves the house only in the evenings or only once a month, he will begin to describe various social situations that seem dangerous to him, and complain that he does not know how to behave accordingly. And the patient with avoidant personality disorder will respond succinctly, "Because I'm terrible and I don't want to be seen."
Such a patient uses physical and cognitive avoidance as a method of avoiding situations in which he or she will be rejected and humiliated. And he is convinced that he will definitely be rejected and humiliated, since, in his opinion, he does not deserve anything better. When other people do not exhibit this behavior, the patient "reassures" himself with the idea that they have rejected and humiliated him in his thoughts.
A sociophobe suffers from his social maladjustment, and a person with IDD suffers from his whole personality, he hates the way he looks, how he thinks and speaks. His generalized sense of inferiority takes its origins in early childhood, defines and emotionally colors his every thought and every action, distorting external reality and making him see an inevitable threat in the most harmless behavior of others.
With social anxiety, you become aware of your social inability, lack of social skills, trying to deal with symptoms and acquire missing skills.
In avoidant personality disorder, you are convinced that there is no way for you, for you, to say and do something right. You are completely and hopelessly convinced that you are always and in everything wrong, incompetent and deserve universal censure and humiliation. And the only way to somehow postpone the execution of the sentence that you yourself have passed is to physically avoid other people and cognitively avoid thinking about what is really going on in your reality.
A person with avoidant disorder enters any life situation with a sense of doom and an unconscious belief that it will all end very badly for him, no matter how hard he tries, no matter what he does. At the same time, the patient does not record or analyze these experiences due to cognitive avoidance. One way or another, he loses even before the start of the game. That is why social phobes seem to be just awkward and unadapted in communication, and those suffering from IDD are truly inadequate and frightening personalities.
