A person often has to insist on his point of view, be it in a friendly dispute, scientific discussion, business negotiations, etc. Naturally, his interlocutor often has a directly opposite opinion on the issue under discussion. How to achieve your goal, how to make you agree with your views and arguments?
Instructions
Step 1
Of course, in each specific case, one must behave in accordance with the circumstances. After all, a tone that is quite appropriate in a conversation with friends is completely unacceptable when talking with a boss, for example, or with a person who is much older.
Step 2
First, think carefully about what will be discussed and what results you want to achieve. You should not start a conversation, especially a serious one, without preparation, hoping that "it will work out somehow." This is a gross mistake. Of course, “impudence is the second happiness”, but you shouldn't rely on it.
Step 3
Think in advance also what the interlocutor's reaction may be, what objections, counterarguments he can express on this or that issue. Try to prepare your rebuttals of these counterarguments, paying particular attention to their clarity and credibility.
Step 4
Speak laconically, confidently, only on the merits of the matter, without getting lost and without taking the conversation away from the main thing. Try to keep your voice calm, polite, but by no means timid. Do not hesitate, avoid repetitions, do not use words-parasites like "Well, then …", "Uh-uh …" and the like. Your interlocutor should not feel "slack" for a second.
Step 5
Remember the wise testament of the famous psychoanalyst Dale Carnegie: "The best way to get a person to do something is to make him want to do it!" Therefore, try to skillfully and tactfully lead the interlocutor to the idea: your idea, your proposal, your solution to the problem is exactly what he needs.
Step 6
Do not forget that the interlocutor will certainly ask the question: “Why should I do this? What is the benefit to me? Therefore, be sure to talk about how your option will benefit. It will be very good if you present a calculation, even an approximate one, as proof. This will immediately create a favorable impression, showing that you are a serious, reasonable person.
