Life begins with love, flows with love and ends with it too. Love moves a person, makes him go to feats and meanness (unfortunately, it also happens). An irreplaceable part of the relationship between spouses is the family ties that surround us.
Even at the initial stage of the relationship of young people, future mother-in-law are already trying to find out as much information as possible about the girl, who will soon have to entrust the most dear thing that she has - her son. Many want, as they justify it, to give the necessary advice, to teach everything that she herself for many years of her life. Modern girls often do not need this. They consider it unnecessary to interfere with their privacy and space. This is where the conflicts of two generations begin. Unless, of course, at least one side does not begin to yield, listen and try to understand the other, because both women have to share one person dear to them.
So, tips for future mother-in-law.
Tip # 1
You need to look closely at her so that she does not notice this, for the sake of your own further relations in the family, try to accept her as good-naturedly as possible, say, as a distant relative.
Council number 2
Try to discern as many positive qualities in the daughter-in-law as possible, and then compare them with negative qualities (it should be noted that the latter should be significant, qualities like "ugly" will not work, think more globally).
Tip # 3
Years go by, the rhythm of life changes. What seemed unthinkable fifteen years ago may now be quite common. Don't impose your advice and beliefs. Of course, very often older women ardently try to help and advise the younger generation, there is no need to do this. Wait for this help to be asked, no matter how much you want to help. And believe me, they will undoubtedly need support.
Advice for women trying to find a common language with the person who gave her a loved one.
You don't need to be a great philosopher to figure out a relationship. Everything is more than simple. Why not try to understand the mother-in-law? Put yourself in her place. Why do conflicts arise? You cannot specifically look for a reproach in the words of the mother-in-law. You should take her as a mother. Somewhere it may and should be conceded, somewhere simply to remain silent, well, but somewhere to have a heart-to-heart talk …
