Friends and relatives wish newlyweds to live in peace and harmony. The young themselves dream of loving and understanding each other to the grave. However, unfortunately, not every family's dreams and wishes come true.
The cause of the conflict can be different views on the upbringing of children, on how to spend a vacation or spend money, jealousy, resentment for the unfair distribution of family responsibilities, drunkenness of one of the spouses and many other situations. How can we avoid turning a normal discussion of a problem into a scandal?
Sometimes it happens that a seemingly trifling remark leads to a real quarrel. Perhaps it was expressed at the wrong time, when the spouse was tired, hungry, or he had complaints against you personally, so your comment caused an explosion of indignation and a stream of accusations against you. Try to be more attentive to your partner in life, to his problems and mood, more often put yourself in his place. Suddenly his claims are not groundless - healthy self-criticism will help to avoid conflicts in your family.
It is also possible that it only seemed to you that the remark was trifling, but your spouse was offended by your tone. Consider the personality traits of a loved one when you decide to ask or remind you of something. Do not criticize or make fun of your spouse in public. For the whole world, your family should remain one, when one for all and all for one.
In disputes, try to control yourself: do not raise your voice, do not resort to offensive generalizations like "you never hear me", "you always think only of yourself." Insults to relatives are completely unacceptable. If you see the situation getting out of hand, it is best to postpone the discussion until both of you calm down.
Reasonable compromise is the foundation of a strong family. Do not always try to insist on your own - make concessions so that your spouse understands that his opinion and his interests are important to you.
The habit of pouring out the annoyance accumulated during the day on loved ones can kill the most ardent love. Control yourself, do not let yourself get lost at home because of personal troubles. In turn, if you see that your spouse is ready to flare up, it is better to leave him alone. Sometimes a kind joke can defuse the atmosphere, it is just important not to confuse it with sarcasm or derision.
Sometimes one of the spouses abuses the kindness and pliability of the other. If this trend is ignored, after a while the family turns into a tyrant-victim pair. Both the compliant partner and, most importantly, the children suffer from this relationship. Do not let family problems invariably be solved at your expense.
