Modern research shows that an even, stable relationship is a prerequisite for mental and physical health. The ideal solution is to avoid scandalous, nervous, hot-tempered people, not to communicate with those who are difficult for you as a partner or interlocutor. It's good if it's possible, but what if your colleague or family member is a conflicted person?
Instructions
Step 1
If possible, avoid topics that lead to disagreements. If you have different views on politics, religion, literature or the behavior of modern youth, do not talk about it, if you are attracted to such a conversation and provoked in every possible way, try to change the topic or simply leave the premises, referring to urgent matters.
Step 2
When dealing with a difficult conflict person, do not indulge yourself with the illusion that you can change something in him, make him look at himself from the outside, listen to criticism. This behavior of yours will only lead to a defensive reaction, which means to an escalation of tension. Let him live his life and live yours. Remember that you do not need to be good to everyone, be friends with everyone or be loved by everyone, you just need to keep your communication to a minimum and distance yourself as much as possible.
Step 3
Keep calm. Even people who are friendly to each other in a stressful situation can start screaming, waving their arms, reacting too emotionally to everyday things. If you also flare up, conflict cannot be avoided. Curb your emotions and show great restraint - this will only be a plus for you.
Step 4
Listen to what they tell you. Don't interrupt the other person. Many conflicts occurred due to the fact that someone neglected this rule. Even if you disagree with something, remember that listening to the speaker is a simple rule of courtesy.
Step 5
Find compromises. Go to negotiations and believe that there is a solution that suits everyone. Finding something that suits everyone is a task for a flexible and creative mind, convince yourself and your partner that you are the owners of just such a mindset and your desire to solve a problem will most likely lead to a solution that is pleasant for both parties.
Step 6
Change your body language. When you see a person, communication with whom does not cause you positive emotions, you, as a rule, fence yourself off from him in every possible way - fold your arms over your chest, turn away, avoid looking at him. This behavior can subconsciously hurt your colleague or family member and thereby provoke a conflict. Watch yourself - try to maintain a relaxed open posture, and maintain eye contact in conversation.
Step 7
Be friendly. Make an effort on yourself and find something good in the person you encounter day in and day out. Remember this, wishing him a good day, compliment his clothes, work, cooking, if they deserve it. Don't be obsequious, but keep an even, positive attitude.
