A good listener knows how to win over himself, he seems very interesting in the eyes of people. This important quality allows you to successfully negotiate, easily avoid conflicts and solve many problems. To find out if you succeed in this role, it is necessary to analyze your ability to listen.
Instructions
Step 1
Several people take part in the conversation and they not only pronounce sounds, but also convey information with gestures and intonation. It is important not only to be silent, but also to give the right signals to be considered a good listener. Analyze how you behave during a conversation? Pay attention to where you are looking, how you are sitting or standing, what you are doing with your hands, whether there are any facial movements.
Step 2
A good listener looks into the mouth of the interlocutor. It is generally accepted that the eyes attract attention, but this is not so. In fact, when the conversation is interesting, the person looks at the lips, and also receives visual information. During a conversation, a good listener participates in the interlocutor's story, he frowns a little or raises them in surprise, sometimes holds his breath or starts to get a little angry, showing it only with facial expressions. This is difficult to learn, but possible. Observe yourself when you are really interested in listening to someone, and then repeat all the emotions in front of the mirror. It is important not to overact, so that it is not too pronounced.
Step 3
Long conversation is an important test of listening skills. Can you not interrupt your interlocutor for a long time? Sometimes people say what you know, and you can interrupt the words, but this is not always appropriate. The listener will not break the monologue, because he increases the importance of the person, he will only assent and agree. Of course, sometimes time is much more important than the opinion of the interlocutor, but it is better to take your time and find out the whole story to the end. Try to talk to a very boring person and not interrupt him, it is not interesting, but it helps you learn to listen. The longer you hold out, the more successes in patience and ability to dispose of the interlocutor it will speak of. But it is important not just to be silent, but to actively participate, nod your head, look in the right direction and not yawn.
Step 4
A good listener knows how to take the place of the speaker. He not only listens, but tries to feel emotions, to understand what drives the interlocutor. This knowledge allows you to tune in to a person and convince him of something, supporting his feelings and experiences. Agreeing with the correctness of the position of the interlocutor, you can begin to control his actions. That being said, it will be very natural and simple, so this approach is great in a variety of circumstances. You can use it both in business negotiations and in the family.
Step 5
Never say the words: "you are wrong", "everything is completely different", "this is a mistake." These phrases can offend a person, humiliate him in the eyes of others. It is important to listen, agree, but make adjustments. In this case, you will make it clear that you are in a friendly conversation, that you do not attack and do not try to convict the person of mistakes. And your advice or adjustments will be perceived as advice or benevolent help, not an accusation.
