Attentive and empathetic people always react to the mood of those around them, especially if they are close people or relatives. Therefore, when someone nearby is ill or is in a difficult life situation, the person next to him wants to support and somehow help overcome difficulties. However, not everyone can provide competent help and support, but this is easy to learn.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, you need to encourage the person to speak up and express their emotions. One can only guess what the other person is thinking and what exactly worries him the most. But it is possible to support morally only by understanding the essence of the issue and the emotional state of the other.
Step 2
To provoke a frank conversation, you can try to ask a few questions, observe the person's reaction to the questions. Even withdrawn and less emotional people sometimes want to talk and speak out, so the person will probably want to talk about their problem with you.
Step 3
Therefore, the second important point in providing moral assistance is to give a person the opportunity to speak out and be heard. You don't need to interrupt the person while they are talking. All clarifying questions and misunderstandings can be discussed later. Better to prove yourself an attentive listener and express a willingness to act.
Step 4
Having learned the essence of the problem or difficult situation, you need to understand whether something can be helped. A question that seems difficult and insoluble to one person, the second has already passed and knows where the optimal solution is. Therefore, by dividing the problem in two, you can try to find a practical solution. If the situation is difficult and it is impossible to solve it with the available forces, then other help may be useful to the person: to cope with the house, take on household chores or distract with some kind of event.
Step 5
Another important point of help is simply being around for as long as the situation requires. To say banal phrases that everything will work out over time and will be good is risky and undesirable. They calm someone, but on the contrary, they will irritate someone. It is better to show the person that he has support anyway, even if things are not going well.
Step 6
An effective way to help a loved one is to try to distract him. You can try to suggest doing something that brings him pleasure. Go fishing and be quiet, or watch a new movie in the cinema and escape from unpleasant emotions. But, of course, you need to understand in what situation an entertainment event will be appropriate. For a person in mourning, the theater is unlikely to help distract himself, and such a proposal will be perceived negatively.
Step 7
It is very important to understand that a person in a difficult situation can be emotionally depressed, often angry or hot-tempered. It is necessary to try to "smooth out the corners" of such flashes and respond correctly to such manifestations.
Step 8
A sensitive and attentive attitude towards a person in a difficult situation will definitely ease his morale and, possibly, help get out of depression. Therefore, you need to be generous with the moral support of this person.
