One of the main tests for friendship is the ability to support a loved one in difficult times. How you cope with this difficult task may depend not only on the state of mind of your friend, but also on your subsequent relationship with him.
Instructions
Step 1
The most important thing in support is the ability to listen. This is the first thing you should do. Prepare for your friend's long outpouring by not interrupting or giving advice - yet. Instead, substitute your shoulder, prepare a soothing tea, hug your loved one, and listen.
Step 2
After this important stage has been passed, all the tears have been shed, all the words have been spoken, the time has come for your advice. Help your friend deal with the situation, push him to take concrete actions. If a person, being in upset feelings, cannot objectively assess the situation, and he sees an extremely limited number of ways out, help him look at the problem from a new angle. Now you are a bearer of objectivity and sobriety, and this is a very responsible post, because what you advise a friend can be realized.
Step 3
Help your friend get distracted. The most important thing is not to rush straight into the pool of solving the problem, it is important to come to your senses, rest and relax. And who, if not friends, are the best helpers in this? Take a distressed comrade to a positive event, a theme party, or a bike ride out of town. All this will dispel the negative attitude of your friend and give him hope for a positive resolution.
Step 4
Make it clear that nagging is not an option. There are situations when, despite all the efforts and the changed mood, after a while everything returns to tears and complaints. Here you cannot give up, but it is important to make it clear to a person that the problem will not be solved by endless whining, you need to become strong and end it once and for all. This will be facilitated by your positive and active life position.
Step 5
Help your friend change. The one who has received some sad lesson in life must certainly add experience to himself and, therefore, change. If it is difficult to do it internally, then start with the appearance: a new hairstyle, a new unusual style of clothing, a new interest. And the internal correspondence will not keep you waiting. Your friend will change for the better, become more interesting, wiser and more experienced, and your relationship will acquire amazing strength and trust.
