A rare person can boast of ambition and iron nerves that do not give up under the pressure of difficulties. It is perfectly normal that the bulk of people are highly dependent on the opinions of others and need regular approval. However, “normal” does not mean “good” at all, especially if you want to develop and improve your leadership skills.
Instructions
Step 1
Never deny someone else's opinion. That's right: the more you say “I don’t care what you think of me”, the stronger the opposite effect is. Not depending on people's opinions is not the same as not hearing criticism. Analyze what has been said and highlight the objective, but simply ignore the subjective.
Step 2
Practice forming your own opinion. Train yourself to write reviews of the films you have watched (this will also develop literary skills), or limit yourself to at least an intelligible point of view. The more reasonably you understand why you do not like this or that thing, the less chances for those around you to convince you.
Step 3
Consider incoming offers. If you are really dependent on others, then, with a high degree of probability, you do not know how to refuse. Control yourself: you should reasonably weigh each request and fulfill only if it does not harm you. An indirect refusal will not work (it is not a manifestation of a strong character to refer to the fact that you have a cat sick), but transmitted through any means of communication (Skype, ICQ, SMS) is quite good for a start.
Step 4
Be the first to express your opinion. It often happens that you change positions under the pressure of strong arguments from a good speaker. Remember that the opinion is purely individual! Try, leaving the cinema with your friends, to be the first to speak about what you watched. You will see that they will listen to you and, perhaps, will not agree - but this will not be so important, because your thoughts are voiced and they did not depend on anyone around.
Step 5
Don't fuss. In no case do not try to become a decisive and strong personality at one moment, it is difficult. Create something like a plan based on the above and your personal techniques, and follow it little by little. The main thing is to record your successes in order to see quantitatively over time how often you began to express your opinion and how much less you began to pay attention to what is imposed from the outside.
