Many people want a relationship for life. However, our smart, discerning girls still make mistakes in choosing a partner, because emotions often go ahead of reason. They overwhelm, destroy logic, and then you have to bitterly regret that you did not look closely, did not understand …
So it turns out that we approach the selection of shoes and handbags much more carefully than the search for a life partner, and we take whatever comes along. Meanwhile, there is a certain pattern by which you can try on a man to your requirements. It is possible and necessary to avoid disappointments. Consider someone who has appeared on the horizon and threatens to capture your heart, on these points, throwing away emotions for a while:
This is not understandable during a couple of meetings in a cafe - because here he will be gallant to the point of disgrace, because it costs him nothing. But a party with friends will show how he relates to others, to other girls. All the more so if the atmosphere is rather relaxed. Look at him not with a loving gaze, but with an appraising look - you will understand a lot. Much more effective in this regard are joint affairs that you can organize yourself. In business, a person is best shown. After that, draw conclusions, your person or not.
That could very well be, right? If he only schedules meetings in the evenings and is busy on weekends, this is a sure sign. If he drops the calls, and when he picks up the phone, he answers with a phrase like: "Ivan Ilyich, I'll call you back," he is almost certainly married. In any case, you need to talk to him frankly. Perhaps he does not see anything special in the fact that you are a backup option for him. You decide.
How can I check it? Ask for something more often, making tasks more difficult. If he hesitates, does not want to and "slips away" - in family life it will be even worse. In this case, in the family you will have the role of "I am both a woman and a man."
Perhaps this will seem irrelevant, but a tactful person will always feel your condition, will strive to help, unlike an insensitive bumpkin who not only does not understand, but does not want to spend energy on understanding your subtle mental organization. A polite person will not forget to congratulate on a holiday, to warn if he cannot come on a date. This is elementary attention to your person, elementary.
He is constantly aware of your affairs, remembers the names of your friends and what problems you have at work? Means, you are really interesting to him. And if he wants to talk only about his worries, he is a real egoist, and it will be very difficult to build a relationship with him. You will have to adapt to it.
Actually, this is just an elementary test of the partner's suitability for a serious relationship. And if most of the points fall even here, you have to be a heroine to build a relationship with such a man.
