“Everything is in our hands, so they cannot be omitted,” said the great Coco Chanel. But sometimes it seems that despite all the efforts, life is in no hurry to please us with pleasant events and resolved problems. Everything falls out of hand, fatigue covers the head, irritation appears. But there is a way out of every situation, the main thing is to look for it correctly!
Instructions
Step 1
Get rid of the victim complex. If you tend to blame everyone and everything for your own failures, then it is worth learning to take responsibility for your own life. The realization that only you can change it, independently choose the path along which you will go further, make the only right decision, will help get rid of the psychological fetters that make you believe in your own helplessness and hostility of the world around you.
Step 2
Take a break. Unpleasant news and events can unsettle you for a long time. Panic, nervousness, irritation are unlikely to help you make the right decision. Don't jump to conclusions, give yourself time to "reboot". Walk down the street, have a cup of coffee or tea, eat a piece of chocolate - before you act, help yourself to calm down and relax a little.
Step 3
Find out the source of the negativity. Try to be more specific about your feelings. Resentment? Anger? Fear of the unknown? These emotions are not constructive, and only interfere with adequately perceiving the situation. In any situation, remember that everything goes away. And in a month or a year, today's difficulties will seem just everyday troubles.
Step 4
Understand the situation. Arm yourself with a pen and paper, it is easier to structure thoughts on a sheet than in your own head. First, describe your situation. Then - write down what the worst outcome might be. Try to come to terms with him. In most cases, the realization of even the worst scenario is better than the unknown. Now write down on paper which result will be most optimal for you. Once you've decided on this point, make a plan of action that will help you achieve a favorable outcome.
Step 5
If the situation is such that you cannot predict its development, try, having outlined the likely scenarios and accepting them, just go with the flow. To distract yourself from sad thoughts, do what you love or allow yourself to relax. Remember that every difficult situation gives you an invaluable life experience.
