Adequate self-esteem is the key to a happy life and personal success. If you feel that your attitude towards yourself is below the required level, work on yourself.
Necessary
- - a piece of paper;
- - pen.
Instructions
Step 1
Realize that you are underestimating yourself. Trust that you deserve to be treated well. Excessive self-criticism and self-deprecation is not normal. This self-determination prevents you from achieving success in many areas of life. When you realize the need for reform in your own mind, then you will be ready for change.
Step 2
Think about what makes up your low self-esteem. Perhaps she was influenced by the unflattering remarks of others, the burden of past mistakes, the absence of any serious achievements in life, or the rejection of oneself. It is worth dealing with each of these reasons.
Step 3
If your self-esteem has become low because of the opinions of other people, consider why their attitude is so important to you. Even if they are an example for you for success in life, you should not allow these individuals to influence your self-esteem. Define a list of people with whom you usually count. Now remove from the list those who do not support, but only criticize you. From now on, you do not listen to the words of these people, ignore their comments and, if possible, limit communication with them.
Step 4
You may not be able to forgive yourself for some mistakes you have made in the past. Then first determine how the consequences of your actions in the olden days are affecting your life at the moment. Don't count the missed opportunities. There is no point in regretting them now. Moreover, it is still unknown how your life would have turned out if you had acted differently in your time. Analyze your behavior, just consider what motives led you then. Imagine that you are judging a loved one, be condescending and forgive yourself for everything that happened.
Step 5
Low self-esteem can be formed due to the fact that you do not value your own achievements, do not celebrate your victories. The reason for this situation may lie in the pursuit of the ideal. Then remember that perfectionism does not lead to anything good. Learn to be content with the average result. Maybe you are such a purposeful person that, having barely completed one task, you immediately set yourself the next. Stop, celebrate the victory, find some kind of encouragement for yourself, praise yourself.
Step 6
If you suffer from low self-esteem because you don't love yourself enough, it is worth working on your self-acceptance. Stop comparing yourself to someone else. Find the maximum value in your character and appearance. If you really cannot do without a competitive element, then make a comparison with those people who are less successful, beautiful and smart than you.
