For many people, the inability to say no makes life much more difficult. Reliability is often used by people who are accustomed to work not with their own hands. Almost always, a trouble-free person understands that she is simply being used, but does not find the strength and confidence to refuse.
There are several easy-to-learn ways to fail:
• Give yourself the opportunity to comprehend the situation. Before you impulsively agree with joy, you need to pause and analyze whether there is really free time to fulfill the request and whether it does not contradict your desires, principles and interests. And only after weighing all the pros and cons is it worth answering.
• Counterattack. Necessarily there are personalities, not at all embarrassed, who abuse reliability. In dealing with such individuals, at the next attempt to impose the fulfillment of certain requests, it is worth starting to introduce the principle of scrap. Once it becomes clear that requests are about to start, don't let it happen. You can start telling the questioner about your dissatisfaction with life, work, weather, some situation. You can start crying about the catastrophic lack of time, poor health, lack of money. In short, you need to bombard the interlocutor with complaints about all kinds of life problems. Just a few repetitions of such attacks and the manipulator is unlikely to soon try to make things work again.
• Development of healthy egoism. What can essentially happen if you refuse to help? After all, the earth will not stop and the sun will not go out. Often, rejection can provoke resentment, negative opinion, and lack of respect. But in such a situation, it is worth considering seriously whether it is necessary to have a person in the environment who evaluates people not for their personal qualities, but only for their convenience in using as a servant. It is important to learn to act based on your principles and priorities.
It is worth remembering that a person who gives up all his affairs and, to the detriment of his interests, fulfills someone's requests, is absolutely not appreciated. For such people, this is just a convenient person. It is imperative that you learn to defend your interests and say no competently so as not to offend yourself in the first place.
