Parting is a difficult period in life. It is difficult to get over it, but sometimes it is necessary. In a few years, all this will not seem so global, but immediately after the breakup, the pain seems unbearable. But if you learn to cope, if you do not lose heart, but act, everything will go easy.
The biggest challenge is believing that nothing else will happen. We must fully realize that this is the end, that there will be no chance of returning anything. Final acceptance makes it possible to go further, while faith in return greatly inhibits and brings suffering. Do not think that he will change his mind, do not wait, but live on. Everything will work out in your life, and this pain is temporary.
Free up space
It is necessary to remove everything that reminds of a person. All souvenirs, gifts, photographs must be hidden. Take it all away to the garage, closet, or summer cottage. You don't need to bump into these items. Sometimes you even have to change your place of residence in order not to walk along the same streets, not to fall asleep in the same apartment where you used to be happy.
Erase all contacts from phone, social networks and mail. You know that if you need it, you can find them through mutual acquaintances. But right after breaking up, you shouldn't have a reason to mess with the person. If you call or write, he may even answer. Well-mannered people do not ignore others, but you will perceive this as a possible path to return, but this is not at all the case, it is just politeness. For the first few months, correspondence, calls and meetings should be avoided.
Reduce the opportunity to meet in person. Do not appear where he may be, avoid hanging out with friends, visiting his favorite cafe or square, where he often walks his dog. Don't look for an excuse to see him. These actions will help you to forget, and the meeting will only re-agitate the wound.
What to do to forget
There is no need to suffer and refuse to live on. You can lie on the couch and cry for the first week, and then you need to do something. First and foremost, exercise. Stress can be removed with the help of loads, it is advisable to first sign up for active workouts: boxing, aqua aerobics, fitness or a gym. At the same time, you will throw out the accumulated pain through classes, after each visit to the gym there will be a feeling of body fatigue, but lightness in the head. After 3-4 months, you can move on to Pilates, yoga. Smooth exercises will come in handy, when the most severe pain has passed, harmonization and peace will be needed.
Do something interesting. Remember what you didn't have enough time for in the past? Someone will enroll in a crochet circle, someone in a flight club, someone will like dog breeding or rollerblading. Find yourself a club of interests, communicate on the Internet and in person, attend all meetings, live an active life. Passion will help you to distract yourself, it is easy to switch to it when negative thoughts appear. And new skills will definitely come in handy later in life.
