Betrayal is difficult to survive, but even after it you need to continue to live on. To stop worrying, it is better to forgive the offender and try to forget everything that happened. When the pain is severe, it is difficult, but over time it is quite possible to do it.
The severity of suffering prevents a person from going further. He has a fear of going forward, he is afraid that everything will happen again. To remove this emotion, you need to forgive all participants in negative events, stop remembering and start living in a new way.
How to forgive someone
Forgiveness is an important skill in a person's life. Having learned how to do this, you can free yourself from the burden of past years, but in the process there is an important sincerity. First you need to throw out all the negative that has accumulated. Introduce your abuser and tell him what you think of him. Blame him, scold him, shout at him. It is important to speak out. If it is difficult to do this with the image, start writing a letter to the person, where everything that has gathered over a long time, highlight in detail. It is very difficult to write or speak such words, tears can come in your eyes, it will be quite painful to remember the details. But once you've done it, you don't have to come back to it.
Then you need to understand the person, think about why he did it. Usually everyone involved in the event is to blame, so ask him for forgiveness for what you did. And finally, tell him that you forgive him, that you no longer hold evil, that you do not expect an apology from him and are no longer ready to keep these negative feelings in yourself.
By doing this, you will feel great relief. But sometimes, for maximum effect, it is necessary to carry out the ceremony two or three times. The most important thing in this business is to be honest and sincere. Do not deceive, but speak or write from a pure heart.
How to forget a person
After the rite of forgiveness, you need to hide all the reminders of what happened. Try to remove from your eyes all the reminders of the person that you no longer need. No photos, gifts, personal belongings. Everything needs to be hidden or thrown away. Don't even think about it.
Every time an image of him appears in your head, start thinking about something else. Think of something nice, like a seaside vacation. Imagine this happiness in colors, and as soon as an unnecessary thought appears, immediately replace it with a colorful picture. Do this all the time, do not allow yourself to think about something that might make you worry again.
Avoid any contact with the person who offended you. Do not call, write, and do not come where he may be, for example, to a gathering of mutual friends. For the first few months, any meeting will only torment, such emotions are not needed.
Keep yourself busy: find a hobby, sign up for a sports section. Don't leave yourself time for sadness and regret. Let every minute be devoted to building a new life. Take care of your appearance, improve your figure, study to become more successful. All efforts will definitely pay off and bring joy and happiness.
