Every person has at least once experienced a feeling of dissatisfaction with his own life. “Nothing works for me”, “What kind of fate I have” are popular phrases uttered in despair. And psychologists and psychotherapists, meanwhile, warn: be careful in your phrases and voiced desires. Research shows that every word spoken by a person consciously or in an instant impulse is directly related to subsequent events in his life. This is where the science of NLP came from - neurolinguistic programming.
Correctly built verbal and non-verbal signals can improve the quality of life and improve your relationships with people - say the creators of NLP Richard Bandler, John Grinder and Frank Pucelik in their books: "The magic of neurolinguistic programming without secrets", "The technology of persuasion" and others. Russian authors Andrey Pligin and Alexander Gerasimov echo them, releasing a manual "NLP Practitioner" for beginners.
Have you ever wondered how two phrases, the same in meaning, but different in sound, can affect the understanding of another person? For example, the phrase: "Would you like some tea?" because of the particle, "not" is automatically perceived as your favor, helpfulness, expressed without much desire. "Maybe some tea?" - already better, but the interlocutor may again hear doubt in a vague "maybe".
To be understood, be more specific, avoiding unnecessary particles and prefixes: "Would you like some tea?", "Are you going for a walk?", "Are you free tonight?" etc. It is the same with oneself. Phrases like: "I can't do it", "Should I get a promotion in the end or not ?!" you send an energetic message that you are subconsciously not ready for success.
Control your phrases wherever you are: at work or at home. Many women wonder: why did her husband lose interest in them? The answer is simple: the attitude of a man depends on which program you set. The constant repetition of the offended phrase: “You don’t love me” or “I am fat” in the end gives its negative results - the man begins to believe in what has been said and stops loving.
Dreams come true only if you voice them correctly, for example, instead of the phrase: "Why don't I get a promotion, because I work like a bee ?!" you need to say: “I am the best economist in my enterprise and I will get a promotion”, “A trip to Egypt will refresh my impressions”, etc. By doing this, you are programming future events in a positive way.
Reinforce your verbal mood with non-verbal gestures: be open to the world and friendly to people. Do not dwell on your own success: the more you ask for others, the more it will fall on you (the principle of "boomerang of good").
